One Giggling Writer

Clear Mindfulness

2012-01-20T18:55:00.000-05:00

What would happen if we changed the common phrases like ‘let it go’ and ‘release it’? What if we no longer tried to 'release' or 'let go' of our past experiences; instead simply allow ourselves to evolve from it. Imagine the inner-strength that could grow (evolve) when we utilize the things reminding us of love & joy, pain & suffering.

A perception to consider - if we ‘release’ or ‘let go’ of IT, then we might forget the journey to where we've been and may repeat the undesired experiences.

Bless the IT with love. If need be, forgive all involved (especially yourSelf). Allow change to happen. Move forward.

Truthfully, I don't want to forget IT, my intent is to evolve and follow the adventure with clear mindfulness.

It's Your Choice

2011-04-22T09:53:00.003-04:00

We made the choices that led us to the situation we are in and no one else can take the credit or blame. If we allow another person to make the choices for us, we still made the choice to let someone do it for us. In the moment we take responsibility for our actions (and non-action) and understand that ultimately we can alter any circumstance something deep within changes. A change in Self-perception. It's not just Self-confidence, -empowerment, -appreciation, -value, -love evolving, but the entire perception of Self.

Life is about experiencing emotions – feeling and expressing. Love, hate, joy, sadness, excitement, anger, birth, death and, with a swing of the pendulum, the list continues down the path.

Ask, “What am I learning?” instead of “Why me?” By rewording the question with the intention set for a better understanding, we declare, “There is power in my words, beliefs and thoughts.”

"Live your "I Am" moment wisely." -John of Peniel

Letting go of the sense of inferiority, the false internal persuasion of insignificance and the many other deteriorating emotions towards not just our Self but towards other people, too, we change our perception of Life. It may take years, it make take only a blink of an eye – we can make the choice to allow the beautiful person we truly are to come forth instead of hiding from the Self-created fear.

A Thread to the Rescue

2011-04-10T08:19:00.004-04:00

It fascinates me to how, where, when we find motivation to do something that a few minutes ago seemed painfully dreaded. It's not been a secret that I've been blocked - down right stopped - from completing the novel that I've been working on for over 5 years. Actually, we are close to the five and a half mark.

Friends who care about my mental stability are now emailing me links and forwarding encouraging words to help light a fire under my fingertips in hopes they will dance on the keyboard again. "Breathe, damn you, breathe!" I beg the ten lifeless appendages.

By chance, pure luck (or maybe I manifested it), I came across a blog post - http://marjoriemliu.com/blog/you-will-be-rescued/ - that made me say to myself, "There is a thread dangling. Yes. Yes, a heartbeat." Realistically I don't expect to finish the novel in a month (oh, wouldn't that be nice!), but just enough inspiration to lift the lid on my laptop and find the lonely file that I've avoided for so long.

"Often, though, you just have to wait for a quiet moment when some odd sensation slips back into you — a little thread, a tiny beat, the edge of something that you can hold on to." -Marjorie M. Liu

A week ago in a conversation with a good friend, about the power of our words, he was quick to remind me of how I talk of my novel. Blocked. Blocked. Wordless heap of nothingness. He said, "Stop talking about it. Stop thinking about it. Every time you say anything about the novel it's always about how you have nothing to write. Simply walk way from it and let it grow on it's own." His words made me realized that I was smothering the story like a mother-in-law inspecting their grown child's house - searching out every flaw until her presence was known that she didn't approve of his spouse's housework. Oh my...

For the past week, I have not thought about, shared any details, or even looked at the laptop begging for forgiveness. I simply stepped away as suggested...until twenty minutes ago. I may have found the thread I was looking for and it was here all this time.

"Leap and the net will appear." -Julia Cameron

Words Combined with Action

2011-03-31T08:43:00.001-04:00

There is power in your words.

There is power in your actions.

Combined with perception, we set forth the intention (knowingly and unknowingly) casting Love and harm onto All.

Our internal strength is a mighty force that influences not just one person, but All.

It is our freewill to utilize words and actions to bring forth our experience... and interpret another's intentions.

~Pearl of Wisdom written by Cindy Kochis

Creating Synchronicity

2011-03-21T13:53:00.002-04:00

As I sat and listened to a farmer explain how he received the items he needed to build several greenhouses, I was in awe. He simply stated, “Lord, I need ___ so I can ___” and usually within a few weeks the items came to him through various means. For example, a man at an auction thought, “Ya know, I think so-and-so could use these.” He raised his hand and bid $5 on the item to purchase for his friend. After arriving at his friend's farm, he is welcomed with, “Ya know, I was just wondering where I was going to acquire ____.”

Intuition and manifestations intertwine our journey and we create by intention and vision. It's when we notice the synchronicities life appears to be more magical. Our thoughts, our words, are very powerful. Be careful what you wish for, is more than a silly cliche.

“Observe the synchronistic events unfolding around you and marvel in the knowledge that you are consciously creating you life experience.” -Lee Simmons

What manifestations have you noticed lately? Create a list of situations you're aware of and watch how life has changed in (un)expected directions. Our journeys were never meant to be stagnate. Like a river current, our desires and dreams move us to new experiences. It's when we stop the flow, or attempt to manipulate it, we form blocks. The resistance can only build up for so long, until the pressure becomes too much and the flow pushes open the release valve.

Curious to see what you can create? Sit and listen to your heart. If you wish, simply state, “I would like ___ so I can ____” with as many details you can think of and envision possessing it. Be patient. Allow it to come freely without demands or deadlines. Watch for the magic of synchronicity.

Words Versus Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough

2011-03-02T13:56:00.002-05:00

In August of 2009, this blog started off as a public means for me to track the novel I've been writing. The idea was that if I told you about my progress, I would quit loosing ambition to follow through. I'm afraid to open the computer file and see when the last time I added to the content of the story, but I'm sure it's somewhere around a year. There's a printed rough draft that lays dormant on my desktop having a love affair with the wood-grain Formica. For some reason, I get the feeling the romance is over and I need to do something with the novel. And soon.

‎"The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense." —Tom Clancy

As my attention shifted, the words filling the text box evolved into observations; you know, things in life I was witnessing. Tossing in my two cents, I began writing from the heart on ways to empower, encourage and remind readers of the importance of Self-love. Isn't that was life is about – falling in love with Self. The blog took me on a journey that led me to self-publishing Get A Compass Not A Clock full quotes and pearls of wisdom I'd mainly wrote here.

‎"People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within." -Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Now, things are shifting again. Not sure which direction I'm traveling but I'm up for the adventure. Thoughts of my novel poke and prod me into either finishing the work of art I've started or begin yet another and let go of the practice run. As Stephen King clearly states in his book, On Writing, “Learn to kill your babies.”

‎"Whatever we focus on expands. We focus so much on what's wrong in our lives; shouldn't we focus more on what's right?" -Marianne Williamson

There are so many beliefs, concepts... oh hell, things... that we feel we must hang onto, fix or reevaluate till we get it (what we consider) right. Writing is a passion of mine; always has been. I get such a natural 'high' from it. I can travel the world, even visit different realms and never disturb my Siberian husky sleeping on the floor right next to the casters on my office chair. When I was a kid, I'd take my mother's typewriter to the basement, use a sheet or two of her carbon paper (yes, I know what you're going to say) that I swiped from her desk and wrote my own version of a newspaper. Of course I got the best satisfaction from making my younger (you're welcome, Sis) sister purchase a copy for a nickle or whatever spare change we could find around the house.

”Words hang like wash on the line, blowing in the winds of the mind.” -Rameshwar Das

Sitting here contemplating my next paragraph, the Monkey Mind is begging me to make chocolate chip cookie dough. Not to bake cookies. Oh no... To eat the raw dough. I've conquered the house-cleaning-procrastination gremlins that go around tossing tissues on the floor and spilling houseplants onto the floor till I start cleaning. Ignoring them has gotten easier, however the cookie dough bunnies might be a different story.

‎"Choosing To Be A Victim Of Your Circumstances And Re - Living In The Shadow Of The Pain That Holds You Bonded In The Darkness , As Some Wear It Like A Badge . Yes It Happened But You " Survived " Move Past It." -Donna Genovese

Life Adjustments

2011-02-08T08:06:00.003-05:00

Life is unpredictable, to say the least. It's an adventure. At various points it feels as though you're on top of the world; and other times, no so much.

I'm not the type of person to fluff up the subject of Life-Altering Change with artificial sweetener. When the words, “Oh my God, what am I going to do now?” crossed my lips, I didn't want to hear someone tell me, “You'll get over it,” or “Just think how better your life will be.”

Get over it? Be better? I liked things the way they were. They were comfortable. The routine was predictable. I knew what to expect.

"This is a time of adjustment...
This is not a time to re-focus...
This is not a time of planning...
This is not a time to do anything other than adjusting to your circumstance.

It is okay to rest.
It is okay to sit in silence.
It is okay to contemplate.
It is okay to remain motionless...
It is okay to be just as you are in this moment."
-Cindy Kochis

Change provides challenges, especially when you're broadsided with it. Even if I were to win the lottery, it would bring on a whole series of new stresses. Sounds silly, but when you think of it, ”What do I do?” “Where do I go from here?” “What do I expect from ME (forget about what others think)?”

This is a time of adjustment. Allow your emotions freedom and give yourself the opportunity to feel it to the core. That is when the healing gains momentum. When I'm listening to a friend talk about what they are going through, I listen. It's not for me to know why we have to go through these experiences, understand the “lesson” to be learned or even see the point of it... What I am witnessing is, in some way, life adjustments encourage us to find that same kind of love we feel for others within ourSelf – to feel unconditional love for Self.

At Your Own Pace

2011-01-26T13:04:00.003-05:00

Change happens. In most cases, it is unexpected; an auto accident, loss of a job, an illness diagnosis, a spouse reveals a secret...the list goes on.

We all deal with change differently. Loving Self during these times can be a bit trying to say the least. Blame, regret, anger, sadness are some of the first thoughts to run rampant in our minds. In an attempt to find comfort, guidance from friends and family is sought. For some, standing there with the viewpoint of not knowing what to say or do, they offer advice and stir up more painful emotions while Self-image and confidence effortlessly slip away. They say things like, "Get over it." "Good he's gone." "Smile, life could be worse." Or more detrimental, "Buck up and put on your big girl panties." How does this help? How is this nurturing? Show me the love in those statements! You can't find it, because it doesn't exist in those clusters of words.

It's important to feel the emotions swirling uncontrollably in that moment. If you are hurting - feel it, experience it and allow it to be. Know that this is just a moment and by letting the emotions to take their natural course you will heal. Trust that you will heal. And, by golly, experience the situation as an observer. Honestly look at it without hiding, burying, avoiding what is actually happening. Don't try to see the other person's point of view. Don't waste precious time attempt to sort it all out. It is what it is, so be it.

By learning to be the observer, it has been my experience to witness and understand that this situation provided me the golden opportunity to explore ways to strengthen Self; to love Self; define Self-love more clearly.

What makes ME feel happy?
What brings joy to MY day?
What can I do for myself that I wish someone would do for me?

Take the time to feel your emotions freely and without judgment. Be compassionate to the loving person you are and allow this situation to arouse the desire for healing. Only you know what is best for you. Look within, your answers are there. Even if for two minutes, be still - quiet - and listen to your spirit say, "I love you."

You Can Change It.

2011-01-17T09:30:00.008-05:00

Careful of your words as they mirror perceptions and beliefs. What is it you are saying when you tell your friends that you'll never meet the man/woman of your dreams, or that you'll never have enough money to go on vacation to Barbados, or when you express your frustrations about having to go to work on Monday? We manifest, bring forth into our reality, situations that we believe are true.

How can you find the man/woman of your dreams if you believe he/she doesn't exist? How will you ever afford a vacation when you believe you don't have enough money? How can you enjoy your job when you believe that it's an inconvenience to your schedule. Seriously, what else would you be doing with your time?

"Until today, you may not have realized that you are totally able, perfectly prepared, fully capable of doing the very thing you have convinced yourself you could not do. Just for today, be devoted to doing just one thing that will help to convince you." -Iyanla Vanzant

By feeling at peace and dipping your big toe in the pool of joy, you can alter your perception of any situation including those that are causing you frustration, uneasiness, disappointment, discomfort and a sense of lack. Don't like how something makes you feel - change it. Yes, it's that simple. Change it.

Let's take work and use it as an example. You have been taught, convinced, that Mondays are to be the most dreaded day of the week. What if your work week started on Friday? Your preconceived notion is that Fridays are the end of the work week and a time of celebration. Will you now dread Fridays and Mondays? What if your work schedule does not maintain regularity? What then? You dread every day? Oh my, honey, this is not a way to be alive.

So how can you change it? Retrain your thoughts - beliefs. If your situation is horrific, change it by exploring other options. Find reasons to enjoy life and the things you do in it. Search for things are are grateful for and make a list. Life is how you perceive it; there's no getting around it.

Careful of Your Thoughts

2011-01-11T12:00:00.002-05:00

Perfect day to write about the statement, "Careful what you wish for, you just might get it." According to Doreen Vitrue, a series of one's means to "Monitor your thoughts carefully, and be sure to only think about what you want, not what you don't want. This sequence is a sign that there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and your thoughts are manifesting into form at record speeds."*

Today is 1-11-11. I cannot tell you what my thoughts were at 11:11 this morning as I was in the process of establishing another blog titled Pinky Region Of Michigan. Most likely I was thinking about the different subjects to write. I think. Maybe... Or was I letting the dog outside?

There are times when we get so caught up in making sure we do "IT" right that relaxing and enjoying the moment seems out of reach and we feel as though we are sabotaging our good fortune. The perception matters. How we think of ourSelf and others directs beliefs like a compass. Are you thinking they like you or not? Did you only notice the fun and excitement or did you belief they were leaving you out because you weren't the center of their attention? Oh the ways our minds play tricks on us.

I did an experiment just to see what would happen to my perception. I quit watching television shows that didn't resonate with me or showed situations I didn't want in my life. The news was the first to go. Programs of crime, deceit and marital discord quickly followed. To tell the truth, I feel much better about life. As I moved through this experiment, I started spending less time with people that spoke ill of others, bathed in drama and basically carried an attitude I felt was undesirable. Same result! I feel much better about life.

Life is meant to feel good, be full of joy and bliss. How are your thoughts directing your perceptions?

*Healing with the Angels written by Doreen Virtue, Ph.D., page 160

Healing Touch

2011-01-03T08:17:00.007-05:00

The awareness of healing touch is growing. Once thought of as something only intuitive energy healers (Reiki Masters, Flowing Liquid Light Healing Practitioners and etc.) offered, people are beginning to understand how they too contribute to the energy flow.

Energy emanating from the heart is of the purest love and light. It cannot cause harm to anyone. When the transference comes from the ego, then ultimatums, judgments, conditions and so on interfere with the authenticity of the love and can be harmful. It is the deep-rooted intention that dictates the flow.

We are all intuitive energy healers. The firm hand placed on the shoulder of a friend needing courage provided the person with more strength. The nurturing hug you gave to your child just before bedtime brought comfort and security. And the list goes on...

Think the healing touch concept is hogwash? How did you feel the last time someone who cared held your hand? It was an extension of love. Nothing more, nothing less.

Unexpected Christmas Gift

2010-12-27T09:07:00.006-05:00

Last Wednesday as we sat facing each other, he cut me off before I could complete my statement, "I'm an easy target for them because I won't fight back. I will not participate in their meanness; there's no reason for it. It's only meant to hurt people in a feeble attempt to feel better about themselves." I sighed, "(They've) cut me down to my core with their wicket words, manipulations and need to continue their nasty dramas. They destroyed my Self-image and now I'm rebuilding..."

"Why would you want to use the same bricks and 2x4's?" he interrupted. "It'll only collapse again. If it didn't work the first time..." he paused for a moment, "You have the opportunity to begin from the ground up. You have changed - evolved - and what once served you, no longer does. Do you really want to rebuild the old you?"

"Nobody is superior, nobody is inferior, but nobody is equal either. People are simply unique, incomparable. You are you, I am I. I have to contribute my potential to life; you have to contribute your potential to life. I have to discover my own being; you have to discover your own being." -Osho

On the night of December 25th, as I lay with my head on the pillow staring into the darkness of nightfall, I heard his voice again - reminding me. "You have the opportunity to begin from the ground up." The heartbreak I endured Christmas morning caused me to notice things about mySelf I was unaware of - habits, taught patterns, learned beliefs of Self.

As the event was occurring, guilt, rage, anger, self-demolishing thoughts filled my mind. For hours after the altercation, I remained in the destructive mode; tearing every shred of my being to smithereens. I'm not worthy.

"Oh my! Did I really think that?"

With that one sentence, I slammed on the brakes to stop the descent into the spiraling out of control vortex that consumed me. An awareness deeply rooted within my soul was forced out of the shadows. I gathered internal strength to build a new foundation - reaffirming the person I truly am. Blessing the situation for the awareness it brought forth, it was released with love and light. IT was let go without strings attached. In the silence of my still mind, I send love and gratitude to all that have shown me their perceptions of me. It is not mine to alter; there is nothing to fix. It is as it is. Everyone has the freewill to develop, maintain and nurture their beliefs of themselves and others. Someday they will see the real me. Until then, I cherish who I am.

I love you. I thank you. All is forgiven. Blessings to all.

Slumbering Emotions

2010-11-22T08:44:00.006-05:00

Dreams are just another way for us to explore and release unresolved emotions. Deep within there may lay in waiting hidden secrets of things we've either done or witnessed and, in some cases, feelings that percolate up from a space we had no idea existed.

As the details of the slumbering memories fade as I awaken and merge more into this day, there is still a part of me that is hurting, sad and regretful. It involved family, forgiveness and love.

"If you haven't cried, your eyes can't be beautiful." -Sophia Loren

When you wake from a dream that shakes you at the core, and emotions are very tender, do you do everything you can to forget them or do you put forth the effort to "react"? By that I mean, when you awaken, are you willing to cry and release the residual emotions? Do offer forgiveness to Self and all involved? Do you take a moment to say, "thank you" to the awareness? Can you, or are you willing, to say to Self, "I love you unconditionally"?

Witnessing the Alignment

2010-11-15T09:22:00.004-05:00

The key is Awareness.

The answer is Love.

And life is meant to be full of Giggles.

It never seizes to amaze me when pondering thoughts fill my mind as I awaken from slumber. Life is continuously evolving. Mind-sets shift; old beliefs fall off to the side when new one materialize; and then, then you finally understand the messages you've been given over and over and over...

The intent is Compassion.

The focus is on Blissful Joy.

And life is meant to be full of Precious Moments.

Situations present themselves in our day-to-day lives for us to notice. When ignored, they become louder and larger until the words, "Oh, now I get it," are vocalized in one way or another.

The action is Trust.

The integrity is Divine.

And life is an Alignment with Oneness.

Way of Thinking

2010-11-08T10:00:00.003-05:00

The conversation took a turn that I truly wasn't expecting. Walking back into the room, my friend says to me, "Don't take this the wrong way, but..."

Unfamiliar with Abraham-Hicks, I played several clips posted on the internet for her to hear. In my excitement of introducing another person to the concept of seeing how our thoughts affect our perceptions, manifestations - our lives - I was shocked to hear her compare Ester Hicks with a dangerous cult leader. The charisma, the repeating of certain words, ability to get people to listen and follow instruction; it was not for her.

Right now there are millions of us artisans, in one way or another, aspiring to encourage others to explore Self-empowerment. Each one has a message, a reminder and on occasion something that sparks a new way of 'being'. Inspiration to create a desired life is one of the most powerful gifts a person can give from the heart.

There are many artisans that'll never know, understand, witness the impact of their work. And that's perfectly fine. Sure, to have the ego stroked and told how wonderful our works of art are offer more encouragement; it's not the real reason behind the passion.

If you think about it, why do we do certain things that make us feel good? Okay, silly question. But is it? Those with the set intention of highest good for all, with harm to none including the Self-help gurus, channellers of non-physical beings, friends, family, and even co-workers all share generically the same message: Love Self.

Personally I would rather learn more about the teachings to look in the mirror and say, "I love you" instead of "Damn you're fat and ugly." I'm all for having the awareness of how positive thinking can, and will, affect what we manifest. Abraham-Hicks' message is clear, "Ask And It Is Given."

Evolving Into Peace

2010-11-03T10:34:00.001-04:00

Words laced with poisonous venom fill the minds of many as the ballots have been tallied and the election results published. Like a vicious cycle of a dog chasing its tail, it doesn’t matter who wins or loses, few will accept the outcome and the perception of government will remain the same.

A belief is a belief that you keep thinking. Plain and simple. If you continue to believe that government is corrupt and has filled with lying bastards who are only lining their pockets with special interest money; guess what, that’s what you’ll get. It is the Law of Manifestation.

For your own personal sake, turn the angry thoughts to compassion, forgiveness and support. Yes. Let go of the fear or knowing that they will ‘screw it up’ for what you seek will be found. Start by acknowledging the elected official has a job that few are willing to pursue. Support their courage. Forgive them for (what you believe to be) previous bad judgments. We are human and will make mistakes; it’s how we learn. Compassion to give them the understanding in knowing they have their lessons to experience.

Let go of the fear (evolving from the election). Convert it to compassion and forgiveness. Support the individuals (everyone involved) in a loving manner. This is a pivotal point in how we perceive elected officials and our emotions/vibrations will impact our future.

A belief is a belief we keep believing. Fear can evolve into Peace...if you allow it.

Tap Dancing Fingertips

2010-11-01T10:26:00.006-04:00

When's the last time you wrote an email to a co-worker, lover, mother and the information was misinterpreted and feelings were hurt? Or worse, you never find out.

The more technology advances, the less we communicate with each other. Something is missing. We send emails, text messages to cell phones in the middle of the night, instant message via the internet, post a quick note on a friend's social media page; but to me that's only providing a non-emotional exchange of information. And I suppose, some would believe it's easier to deliver news without having to witness the other person's reaction.

How did we evolve into being so unattached that we cannot find the time to talk to a friend face to face? When we communicate it's our vibration - the energy - defining our meanings, our feelings, our intent, our Truth. By putting up the artificial barrier, the emotions are blocked from delivering the message originally set forth. Oh sure, there are the cute little smiley faces and symbols, and bold words typed in red ending with an exclamation mark used to convey purpose. It's not the same.

It's become too convenient to tap on the computer keyboard and send a quick note, saying, "Hi, how are you?" instead of dialing their phone number and speaking to the friend. A quick note that reads "I miss you" will not have the same impact as seeing the individual and telling them in person. All the intended receiver of the message sees is the end result of your finger tap dancing on the keyboard leaving the tone of voice silent and worse yet, the emotions unfelt - unheard. No matter the advancement in technology, it cannot interpret vibrations.

NaNoWriMo

2010-10-31T07:25:00.002-04:00

Attempting to eliminate the ways in which I'm distracted with the intend to spend more quality time focusing on tasks I wish to accomplish, I've seem to have increased my number of social media group enrollments. What? Say it isn't so!

Alas, it is true. One friend and family group, one spiritual based, third one on the list is for writers and the most recent is for NaNoWriMo. National Novel Writing Month, created by Amazon.com, I must say intrigues me. The idea is to write 50,000 words in a month with a goal to have the rough draft of a (or near) completed novel to edit. Broken down, that means 1,667 words written each day. During the month of November, I will have a NaNoWriMo word count widget included on the right column so we can keep track of the progress together.

They say a habit needs six weeks to be broken, how many did they say to establish one? As you've seen in previous posts, I write, I pause, I take a long break, then work on one of my novels again. I suppose there's nothing wrong with my yo-yo attention span with novel writing (mainly because there is no right or wrong - it is what it is). It'll be interesting to see what is accomplished at the end of the 30 days. My goal is to be faithful to my passion for writing. When I pick it up from the long pauses, I always ask myself, "Why did you stop in the first place? This feel so good!"

Shifting Gears

2010-10-25T09:01:00.002-04:00

Focus is shifting from the sense that we have to get it all done to how can I relax? Realizing that being overworked, bombarded with deadlines, a to-do list without an ending is no longer a desired way of life; we seek serenity.

Meditation can be used to release the beliefs that no longer fulfill our journey, silence the continuous chatter of the monkey mind, balance energies, access internal wisdom, grounding and align with Self. Like exercise, we know meditation will help us to feel better, be healthier and so forth. Even though the intent is there, it's still resisted. Clocks are watched; and for the Go-Getter's on a constant run, the idea of stopping their busy life for 30-minutes (forget an hour) of meditation is put off for another day. Belief that there isn't enough time delays the action because how could it possibly be productive to stop the forward motion?

On the other side of the pendulum, there are those who try so hard they exert themselves to exhaustion to create a sense of relaxation that when achieved, it's not relaxing at all. Go, go, go, stop. Go, go, go, screeching brakes. This way of life can cause metaphoric whiplash. Ease into the new routine. Do it in baby steps if need be. As a friend told me years ago, "Take your time. This isn't a race. It takes practice. What happens when you slam on the brakes too hard? You smash your forehead on the steering wheel; and who needs the headache?"

Done in niblets, meditation does not require a person to sit in an uncomfortable position with index fingertips pressed against the tips of the thumb forming circular symbols to experience inner peace. Inconspicuous ways people meditate without realizing they are doing it may include:

Taking a long walk through the woods
Focusing on and repeating an affirmation
Sitting in a boat waiting for a fish to bite
Soaking in a warm bath watching the flame of a candle flicker
Listening to a favorite song that teleports the senses to a peaceful momory
Stepping outside from a long day at work and taking in a deep breath of fresh air
Watching the sun set
Staring out the kitchen window while washing a sink full of dirty dishes
Loosing track of time while working on a hobby

Truly there is no right or wrong way to experience serenity; what matters is the intent. It is when focus shifts to developing a healthy relationship between physical and divine Self that true love of Self blossoms naturally.

Please share the ways in which you take time for yourself.

Middle of the Night

2010-10-18T10:19:00.005-04:00

Ever wake up in the middle of the night with a profound thought that possessed the ability to move mountains of beliefs or at least shift them enough that sleep becomes next to impossible? This recently happened to a very close friend of mind. At 2:12 am this individual sent me the following text:

"Random thought #437: so if we're in charge of our own destiny and set up choices to decide the future, than why can't we see the outcome of our decisions prior to making them? Or do we choose to be blind as to not spoil the surprise of our actions?" -JK (posted with permission)

Ah, the poetry to me senses! Throughout the day as this task was accomplished and another started, the words on my cell phone were revisited. Somewhere in the middle of the afternoon, my friend wrote, "So what's the answer?"

Is there simple approach to the question? One that defines its concept? Nope. The answer is as individual as you and I. We perceive things differently; and when boiled down to the nitty-gritties in the bottom of the pan, our life experiences are still rather simular. It all traces to one complex four-letter word. We share the desire for basic needs, like food, water, shelter, and companionship. Simplifying the list, the key element to it all is (and what it is that we are here to experience) - love.

"Life is what you make it ~ you're the creator. What emotions, thoughts and perceptions are you using to define this moment?" -Cindy Kochis

We have freewill to create the lives to live. We are the creators. Without conflict we cannot appreciate and truly value the meaning of life. Each person, each being, each aspect of this moment was brought into our experience to bring awareness to Self, Oneness and various elements of Love.

So, if you received a text message from a friend asking, "So if we're in charge of our own destiny and set up choices to decide the future, than why can't we see the outcome of our decisions prior to making them? Or do we choose to be blind as to not spoil the surprise of our actions?" how would you answer the questions? Please share with us your answer.

Message in the Sky

2010-10-11T11:58:00.006-04:00

Few thoughts invaded my mind as we rode through the countryside looking at the autumn colors. Nature is beautiful. It doesn't matter why or how the leaves turn to glowing yellows, flaming yellows or deep baritone shades of red. Truly I don't need or even desire an explanation; I revel in the miracle of evolving from one season to another.

Perched on the back of the motorcycle with camera ready to capture the moving scenery, I snapped a picture that took my breath away. A message in the sky. I didn't see the image before I took the photo. There was not a desired outcome or expectation. As soon as the image appeared in the LCD screen, I immediately snapped another picture of the same part of the skyline. The Cherub, male in appearance, looking down on us was gone, however the message was clear.

Our environment provides us with signs continuously. It is our option to pay attention. What is the message you receive when you watch the family of otters play near the riverbanks? How about the deer standing on the edge of the road? When you hear the caw of a crow gliding through the air, what's your first thought?

When something like this happens, trust your intuition to provide its meaning. Be open to the infinite possibilities. The first knowing (thought from the heart) that pops into your head is the message. The more you dwell on whether or not your are right or wrong, the less likely you will understand the intention.

Way, way back when while I was exploring my intuitive skills, a friend would have me interpret dreams. "What do they mean?" she'd ask. "What's your interpretation?" I would write it out, email it back to her and in most cases my version (let's just say) were not textbook. I got frustrated because I never had (and still don't) any interest in getting a dream interpretation book and was flat out told my answers were wrong. It didn't matter what the different symbols meant to me - I wasn't following the guidelines someone else established. Basically, it wasn't to her satisfaction. After some time later, in a completely unrelated conversation the experience was brought up and she informed me on the accuracy of the readings. She was impressed with the personalized insights she would never have gotten from her book.

We tend to discredit what we know (believe) to be true because we listen to the mind. The ego can be ready at a moments notice to dispense doubt like a candy dispenser. Instead of following our hearts, we have become accustom to turning to books and people we consider to be more knowledgeable for justification or approval or their interpretations. The priceless lesson my friend provided me was to trust my intuition and not to rely on another's. In some cases, their insight is based from their personal experience, fears, beliefs, and anything else you'd like to add to the list even though it doesn't pertain to your situation.

If the message is loving, nurturing and supportive, it came from the heart. Fear, doubt, lack, anger, rage and so forth only come from ego (mind) - not the heart. Only unconditional, pure love comes from the heart. Who's messages do you wish to hear?

Interwoven Messages

2010-10-04T09:07:00.007-04:00

Fear is a belief. Fear from a past life can affect this life. Fear is part of our shadow work; an aspect of Self to be nurtured and seen for what it really is ~ withdrawal from Love.

In a conversation with a friend, I asked him if it was okay to tell him something he may or may not believe. He was open to what I had to say and listened. I asked him if he knew a woman who has passed on with long, straight black hair and the most beautiful brown eyes (the kind you cannot look away from). She appeared to be Native American Indian or at least part Indian. She came to me (she's visited on several occasions) this time just before I was getting in the bath tub for a soak and requested I share with this man her gratitude and love. He made a difference in her life. [As a side note, there's nothing like standing naked getting ready to put a foot in the warm water when something like this happens. Of course, I giggle at the irony as I write this article - vulnerability.]

At the time of the conversation, he seemed okay with the message. Uncertain of who the woman was, he was still appreciative. As we parted ways, I wondered if it was bothering him on some level. The next day I emailed a quick note just make sure I hadn't upset him. I explained, "It's that vulnerability issue - putting myself out there to 'get noticed' (and burnt at the stake)." The moment those consonances and vowels spread across the page, a flash back of the morning I woke up in absolute terror filled the mind.

The dream what horrifying to say the least. However, it answered the question I'd been asking for years - "What's holding me back?" I woke up knowing who it was that turned me into the council for being a witch in the days when innocent women where being burned at the stake or hung. The person was a loved one, a person I (in that lifetime) trusted with all of my heart and loved to the core of my being. Forgiveness, compassion and love surround the dream and still continues to provide me insight.

Learning to trust in the trust of trusting is not bravery ~ it is embracing love of Self unconditionally. Love is the key element to everything... What belief is holding you back?

Perception as Reality

2010-10-02T12:13:00.006-04:00

Life's been a bit too serious lately. A new project started, another obligation scheduled and playtime extinguished. Simplifying is a new priority. Not everyone agrees or understands and that's okay. The desire to impulsively splash both feet into a mud puddle outweighs their voiced opinions on how they believe I should spend my time.

In each of us is an innate being, a beautiful ray of light, waiting to help us let go of old habits, destructive behaviors and unhealthy beliefs. Truly, it is a mind game. The more we become aware of the drama of feeling sorry for ourselves (for example), change begins. How would life be interpreted if no one complained about money, relationships, jobs and etc.? Think of the peace we'd experience.

"Allow all the emotions to pass through ~ feel freedom by letting them go… Don’t hold on to them (positive or negative emotions) for then blockages begin to form." -Cindy Kochis

Affirmations and adjusting our words to sound more positive are great as long as we are not attempting to cover up (hide) the underlying issues. Convincing Self with positive, choreographed words is not enough, the truth is in the vibrations of the emotions felt. I can tell you how wonderful life is while feeling completely miserable on the inside. I hid my reality from you for one reason or another. The real work is on the inside where thoughts twist and turn, morph and mesh, and create perception.

What are the labels you place on your forehead when you look in the mirror? Actually, do you even take the time to acknowledge the person in the mirror? Are you so rushed in the bathroom while you're getting ready for another day? Often times we neglect to see past the image of the person looking back. Spend time with that individual. Start the conversation by saying, "Good morning, Sweetie. Let's go have some fun."

Listening to Emotions

2010-09-28T08:19:00.004-04:00

You know how people are searching for peace of mind - a source of joy in their lives? It has been proven that meditation is a technique that helps people transform their lifestyles. It provides an open channel that connects them with Self. Through meditation, you can open your heart to the flow of universal consciousness and, if you choose, live blissfully in the present moment.

There are many reasons people take the time to incorporate the action of meditation into their daily lives, it helps in: improving intuition, relaxation, to rejuvenate energy, reduce stress, connect with personal guides, letting go of fears, forgiveness, open Self to love, inspiration and creativity...just to name a few.

We've all experienced a period when life was uncomfortable and it seems everything is going wrong (remember - there is no right or wrong, only awareness), meditation helped me to dispel some harmful beliefs that were falsely held dear within my heart and thoughts. In relation to feeling the sense of loneliness, feeling everyone else held the keys to the happiness as I stood off in left field, alone and empty handed. My dear friend, we posses the power to change. A belief is only a thought that we replay over and over in our minds until we allow it to become reality.

There is so much power in our words. Worlds are created with the emotions attached to the words. When we become aware of the feelings in that moment, we express the beliefs held dear within and it provides us the opportunity to honestly say, "Hey, is this how I want to feel?" Truly it is our choice.

On the right hand column of the OneGigglingWriter.blogspot.com blog is a section of FREE Worksheets & Stuff. There I have added a free worksheet for anyone to download and explore emotional attachment to a handful of words. It's not necessarily the choice of words we use - verbal or non-verbal - it's the emotional attachment we feel when they are expressed. Awareness can create a defining moment for change.

Take the words I love you. Three simple little words. When you say them to a newborn child, it will sound and feel different than if you were to say it to your parents, to a lover, to a spouse, to a pet... you get the idea. It is the extension of vibrations that impacts the world often times unseen ways. Close your eyes, relax and listen to what your heart has to say.

Simon Says, "Relax."

2010-09-24T06:28:00.008-04:00

A black feather with a white tip rested on the mowed grass only a step to the left of the trail entrance. The splotch of reflective blue on it is what really caught my eye. This will be a perfect addition to my collection at home, I thought. I placed it in the corner of my handbag and arranged it so it was sticking out to enjoy the journey to the bluffs over Lake Michigan.

On the path of mixed clay and small pebbles, I walked through the woods listening to the whimsical music of birds singing, the breeze ever so slightly whistling through the tall trees and the chatter of squirrels. The mind was silent while the senses embraced nature.

A warm breeze swirled around me as I stepped onto the wooden walkway planks leading to the bluffs. The radiant sun felt good as I left the shelter of the forest. A romanticized image of letting the feather float off into the great beyond vanished as I heard voices in the sitting area at the end of the trail. Smiling, I was greeted by a couple, long-time friends, out enjoying a day of playin' hooky and the scenery. The gal politely asked if I was an artist with work on display at the local art center.

I replied with a simple no. "I'm an artist of words, no a painter. I'm a writer," I said graciously regarding the mistaken identity.

Several stories and plenty of laugher were exchanged between the three of us. When I mentioned I used to write the newsletter for two of the local chamber of commerce offices she knew instantly who I was. "Your name is Cindy," said the stranger.

"Yes, I am." It felt good to be recognized ~ a faint hint of fame.

Soon the couple started the walk back to their vehicle. I soaked up the peace and quiet in solitude. Rolling white caps moved across the deep blue waters below. Fresh air filled my lungs. Life is magical.

An hour prior, I spent time with a friend who listened and allowed me the opportunity to answer my own question regarding the radio show I'd established two weeks ago. There's a reason the first Guided Journeys with Cindy did not record well and why I dealt with one hurdle after another in an effort to send the second week's edition to the producer. And, why my revised business cards (no matter what I did) would not print. It was not meant to be. I'm okay with it. I did something incredible. I moved through fear and accomplished something I thought I never could do - be a radio show host. I suppose you could say I can cross that off my bucket list.

The thing is, I knew early on that it wasn't working and I released the need/desire to continue perusing a dream. There is no regret. It was through the conversation with my friend that I truly understood that this is a time for me to enjoy life, slow down and 'smell the roses.' Not a time to be adding more obligations to my list of to-do's. Why am I finding it difficult to just stop all the busy-body stuff and witness the magic? An involuntary smirk broke the silence - "Simon say, 'relax'."

The spell of the moment faded as voices approached the sitting area. It was time for me to continue my journey back to the truck and go home to take a nap. Without hesitation or a resisted thought, I removed the feather from my purse and allowed the wind to take it from my fingertips. Curious to see how far it'd fly, I turned around to see it landed only a step to the left of the entrance of the sitting area. I giggled at irony.

I have made the decision to postpone/end Guided Journeys with Cindy. I cannot begin to thank Sahvanna at Soul's Journey Radio enough for her support, wisdom and the opportunity she provided me. She is a very talented and visionary woman with an important quest.

Our Divine Purpose in life is love of Self.

Giggling My Way Through Adversity

2010-09-21T10:25:00.007-04:00

Ever have a couple of days where nothing seems to be going right? Roadblocks to dodge, small animals running out in front of you, white knuckle grip on the steering wheel... and the brake pedal is missing. That's how the past eight days have felt. I can proudly say that my patience has been tested and I giggled through the whole process. Well, most of it anyhow - I did cry on Thursday.

Life is meant to be fun and not taken so seriously. Personal growth is key. Are you willing to step back, look at the situation while in the moment and ask Self, "What aspect of ME am I being made aware of?"

Ah-ha. Is this a characterization, or better yet, a misunderstanding of the phrase be in the moment. Being in the moment doesn't mean to be nonchalant about the situation, it is about being aware. Does this make sense? The more I attempted to make "it" work my way, the faster the roadblocks were built. I spent all of my morning and afternoon, hence why I'm posting this today and not on Monday, trying to get the recorded show of Guided Journeys with Cindy to the producer. I spent countless hours trying to figure out how to get my voice data recorder to download the show onto the computer. Even though it was obvious Plan A was not working, I still pursued it. Then Plan B pooped up. "Yes!" I hollered and giggled with delight.

Plan B was wonderful, exciting and unexpected. Now I felt really good for having spent the $20-25 on a headset/microphone for a completely different project. A new buzz of energy rose and I spent the next hour and a half recording Guided Journeys with Cindy. A key element needs to be noted is the fact the show is 55 minutes long.

So at this point I'm all happy and giddy driving back into town for the high speed wireless internet at the library only to find out the file is too big to email. This beautiful, wonderful show is too flipping big. Ka-thud. My wild and woolly crazy buzzin' energy screeched to a halt. "What?" I exclaimed from inside my truck, "No!" I tried several ways. Nothing worked. Nervous energy started flowing out of control until I realized what I was allowing to happen and turned the focus on the fact that everything will be okay. I giggled and took the revised approach of maybe this is not how it was meant to be, but everything works out for the best.

Then Plan C hits me like a bolt of lightening. Vroom.... I drove back home like a mad woman. I recorded the beginning and ending of the show thinking the producer could cut out the meditation portion from last week's show and plunk in the middle right where it belongs. "Yes! This will work!" I spend another 30 minutes getting Plan C completed and, vroom, back into town for the high speed internet. The email was sent in a few seconds. A message was left on the producer's voice mail during the drive to work giving her a brief description of the events of the day and of the email sent to her.

Later in the evening, when it was too late to do anything regarding the show, I checked my email only to find out that there was no sound on the file. I laughed at the situation. After spending literally all day working on this project, worrying, hustling, getting frustrated only to find this out, I simply laughed. Sahvanna, the producer, reassured me all was well. In the email she wrote, "No problem Cindy, don't stress. :)" How awesome is that? My guess, she was giggling at the absurdity of the situation as I was. She made the show happen and all is well.

Everything works out. I trust that it will... I have faith.

Dirty Toes

2010-09-16T20:47:00.006-04:00

Today's blog entry started off in the usual sense with a few words of wisdom formulating in my mind, however I cannot stop thinking of what a friend said on the phone yesterday. The conversation began like any other and quickly converted to one I wasn't expecting. Descending from happy thoughts into ongoing issues where fear is used as a motivator, not praise nor a sense of community.

She pointed out gently how we've spent a considerable amount of time opening and having fun learning how to use our upper chakras and adjusting to the new energies. "It's time to work on the lower ones - mainly the root chakra." The upper chakras represent communication and the ability to hear/see/speak with the divine. It's time to do something with the knowledge and move into the areas of resistance and continue the healing process.

The root chakra is the grounding chakra in respect to a person's connection with Mother Earth. It is also a power source. The key element is survival. There are many of us that are feeling the discord of this region: security, money, relationships, self-worth, trust, a sense of feeling grounded. What I found interesting on the internet was how many shared the same suggested therapy for balancing the first chakra - "Walk barefoot in nature," "Hug a tree," and "Dance." Basically any physical movement that makes you more aware of your body will strengthen this powerful chakra.

And, sad to say but worth mentioning, in my quest for information I came across a site that talked about the root chakra being sexual and if you craved sex or had no desire for it, then "stop reading here" because there's no help for you. Huh? Are they serious? There's always a solutions. Pay no attention to those who use fear to guide you. There is always hope.

So, can it be this simple? Dance barefoot in nature. Why not? Opening the heart charka is easily done with Love.

Thoughtful Choices

2010-09-13T09:43:00.004-04:00

'Careful of your thoughts' is an understatement for they possess more power than we acknowledge. Thoughts create perceptions and formulate beliefs to be held as current Truth. This is not a new concept, just one that should receive more attention.

The things our minds dwell on (work, relationships, money, status) puts focus on our intent - the experiences we wish to attract into our lives. If thoughts are centered on how horrible Monday is going to be at work, the person seeks out to notice all the challenges of the day to confirm the desire (belief) without recognizing any joy. It is, afterall, what Self is expecting. And when the day goes better than expected, that person will believe it was only a fluke and that won't happen again. Well, maybe on Friday. Here's something to ponder, people are typically fired or let go from their jobs on Fridays - not on a Monday.

Let's chat about relationships, shall we? This is a very sensitive subject to most. The number one question a psychic is asked is in regards to relationships. "Will I ever meet my soul mate?" "Does he love me?" "Is she the one?" "Will this relationship last forever?" "Will we get married?" If you think about it, the person asking has already set doubt into motion - perception established. If the questioner were to sit quietly in the energy of the relationship and listen to the heart, the answer is already there because you are creating it. The ego, on the other hand, may certainly have a completely different answer. "I'm not worthy of his love." "She'll take care of all my needs." "Can't wait to see So-and-so's reaction when I bring him to the party."

Your choice in music, movies and television shows can also alter your manifestations. Listen to the influential words when you sing along with the radio. Are you singing about love gone bad or of the power of love? Is the television show jam backed with violence and deception or about a supportive friends? Our emotions guide our perceptions, in turn establishing our desires. How do you feel when listening to a favorite song? Seriously. Does it help you to heal from a heartbreak or stir up emotions of lack, doubt, failure? Compassion or rage... Our words, verbal and internal, hold more power then our awakening minds can comprehend.

Ask youSelf, "What would happen if I changed my perception?" Look at any situation in your life. We get so wrapped up in our emotions that sometimes we miss the miracles of the moment. Yes, the Miracles of the Moment. There are reasons (lessons) we experience what we currently consider less than desirable events. They serve as a compass to direct our course and, in some cases, force a necessary change in our awareness. Be open and available to new possibilites, new understandings and allow the wall of self-righteousness to crumble to the wayside. Be curious as a young child and know there is no right or wrong decisions - only awareness.

"Sometimes, by taking a moment to return to where you are right now, you will be able to see the moment with greater clarity and insight and the next step on your ongoing journey will be clearer as well." - Brian & Wendy Froud from "The Heart of Faerie Oracle"

Into the Light

2010-09-10T20:51:00.004-04:00

The sun, only a few hours from setting in the western sky, casted magnificent streamers of light through the maple tree branches above and on both sides of the two-track. The inside of the truck illuminated in an intense hue of yellowish orange. Eyes squinted behind dark blue sunglass lenses, I could barely see where I was going. As I crested the hill and started my descent downward, I giggled to mySelf. Only days ago I felt like the cat in the photo walking past a row of 10-15 German shepherds with the phrase underneath that read, "As I walk through the Valley Of Death, I fear no evil..." Although my version was worded a little differently, it still held the same value. "As I walk through the Valley of Doubt, I fear no failure. I shall succeed by continuing this journey placing one foot in front of the other (even if I have to strangle my ego)."

Courage and Naysayer have become closer friends as September 13th approaches. Listening to the nurturing voice that comes from the internal divine being within versus the ego was much easier this time than in other situations. I spent time with both Courage and Naysaer, and wrapped my arms around Shadow in a loving hug and whispered in her ear, "I love you. I forgive you." I can still feel my breath in my ear.

I have no idea where this path will lead. I am simply trusting. There are daily reminders everywhere in humming neon signs with all sorts of encouraging words to dream big. I continue to ask, "What are the infinite possibilities?" Excitement barely describes the brewing energy percolating from deep within.

You are invited to join me on Monday nights, beginning September 13th, at 9pm EST for Guided Journeys with Cindy on Soul's Journey Radio.

Through our powerful thoughts and imagination a safe and beautiful place is created for healing, insight, clarity and love. Meditations open the lines of communication between mind, body, spirit and divine messengers. Know "the answers" will come in a silent moment - when the mind is still.

In this period of growing awareness, I have tapped into my skills as a Lightworker, intuitive healer and writer to assist those that are ready to align with Self. There is a precious being within all of us eager to share love, wisdom, knowledge and Truth. We can learn so much by taking a moment and allowing the voice of the Heart to communicate.

I would like to take a moment to thank Sahvanna for her kindness, guidance and this opportunity.

Namaste'

Journey on the Woven Web

2010-09-06T14:31:00.009-04:00

Coincidence? I think not. Several friends proclaim September is a month of rebirth, renew and time to stop thinking of what you’re gonna do and put the plans into motion. This is no long a period of rest. Awesome. I have the motivation, inspiration and the energy to pursue my dreams.

A popular social networking site has connected me with people I would have otherwise never met. Well, hold on, this string of the webbing starts even before the site was a blip in someone’s creative mind. It began the day I met Denise Iwaniw in Traverse City. Sitting in the audience listening to her adventures and information from her new book “Embracing the Mystic Within” opened a new chapter for me. Guided to go to this gathering, I knew something wonderful would blossom from it.

Wait. Back the bus up. The string on this webbing goes further back to when I worked for Marc at the local radio station WBNZ. I jumped at the opportunity to learn how commercials were produced and how the daily log incorporated into the programming. With the eagerness of a curious five year old, I was all ears. Marc taught me a lot about radio and how well-planned silence can be crucial at the right moment. However, too much dead air on a radio station causes dials to be spontaneously rotated to the left or the right.

Public speaking, with everyone’s attention focused on what I have to say, has been a bit easier to do than I anticipated. I never found comfort in standing up in front of a crowd before I facilitated several open forums last fall. I was the one who sat in the back row snickering at some inside joke that crossed my sassy mind.

Back to Denise, she shared with us that evening the internet link to her radio show on Soul’s Journey Radio. I started listening to her show on Wednesday nights when my schedule allowed. Through Denise I met show host Diana Dorell and several other wonderful women. Naturally this is how I was introduced to Sahvanna, founder of Soul’s Journey Radio, Soul’s Journey Community and the newest addition to her line up – Soul’s Journey TV. When Sahvanna inquired on the networking site if anyone had an idea for a new show on Soul’s Journey Radio I sent her an email. A dream evolving into reality…

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” –M. Gandhi

It amazes me to witness how the web of life has introduced the people and various experiences into my journey. I am grateful for the opportunity to assist those that are ready to align and listen to the inner knowing with the Higher Self ~ the beautiful being within all of us. It is my privilege to make the following announcement:

Guided Journeys with Cindy
www.soulsjourneyradio.com
Relax and explore your sacred space as you listen to Guided Journeys with Cindy on Monday evenings at 9pm beginning September 13th. It is a safe and beautiful place for healing, insight and to hear messages from the Higher Self ~ the beautiful light being within each of us. Visit this blog often for upcoming show information. Ah...the webs we weave.

Loving the Naysayer

2010-09-03T10:09:00.005-04:00

Forging past fear appears easy on the big screen as we encourage the hero from the safety of a cushioned theater chair. It can be another thing to stand up in the face of our own fears to move past self-imposed challenges. Fight or flight. Stand up sit down. Do it yourSelf or pray that someone else will come along to handle the situation. An old way of thinking is to have everyone else decide how to find the looming solution or seek out someone willing to stroke the ego enough to boost the internal courage hidden behind the spinal cord to come forth.

It takes practice and determination to let old beliefs fall to the wayside. As mentioned over and over, there is no right or wrong decisions - only awareness. Each choice causes a ripple effect. The problem lies in the lack of decision making while waiting for an exterior source to help. Fear can be crippling as it creates more fear until there is no movement. Yikes! In order to grow, find peace, experience joy, laugh, love, some kind of motion has to take place. Take in a deep breath and allow your shoulders to relax as you exhale. Feel better? Yeah me, too.

Inside all of us is a wise one that knows only Truth. Find time each day to pause and listen to the internal voice through meditation, reflection, daydreaming, staring off into the distant sunset and even during a long hot shower. Learn a variety of techniques to quiet the chattering monkey mind. Excuses can be found as to the why not's. What do you desired? How can you expand your experience? How can it get any better than this?

Recently I've made a significant decision. And it was easy. I trust my inner voice. Yes, it will involve spending money. Yes, it involves going more public with my services. And yes, I am feeling fear. I also know from the depths of my being this is the path in which I desire to journey. Listening to Self during quiet moments, I gracefully understand how many different experiences have lead to this moment - a manifestation. There is a stubborn, nay-saying three year-old girl sitting on my right shoulder that I've asked to be my friend. I'm listening to her fears and embracing them. I am nurturing fear with love. What better way can you think of to develop a healthy relationship? The more I love and get to understand the three year-old naysayer, the softer her tantrums and the complaints lessen. Somehow she will get my attention. I rather it come through love.

Power of Empowering

2010-08-30T11:12:00.004-04:00

Feelin' a bit feisty, I let thoughts swirl around fears and employment as I washed the dishes this morning. In view is the floral garden I haven't tended to in two weeks. There's also a hiking trail two miles down the road I haven't stepped foot on in over three weeks. I've allowed working to consume my energy and time. As I stood at the kitchen sink looking at the wheelbarrow full of rotting vegetation in the middle of a pathway, a gentle voice quietly asked, “Where's your focus?”

I smiled. I knew. “Yep,” I said aloud, “I'm not setting my energy on the things that matter the most to me. Huh....” Excuses could have spewed from my mouth, if I allowed, but talk about counterproductive. We as a society worry too much about money, jobs, lack of 'something.' When, or why, did we move away from the rhythm of life – nature – being? What happened to the idea of living peacefully in the moment? Listen to friends, family and Self on a Sunday evening and most likely you'll hear the discord of “I hate Mondays, I don't want to go to work tomorrow, I can't wait for next weekend.” Anxiety builds and more fear is set forth along with annoyance, dissatisfaction and plenty of other unpleasant emotions. Why do we insist on suffering? Ha! Here's a thought, how about I go to work to recoup (rest) from life instead of resting because work is exhausting.

For as long as I can remember I have said, “Tell me I do good and I will do better. I want to hear the phrase again and again.” Honestly, I've only encountered a couple of managers/employers that functions in this manner. Instead most stood on their shaky pedestal tossing their self-fabricated power around like they were the keepers of the kingdom, holder of the keys, instilling fear in hopes to maintain the illusion of control. There's this false premise that in order to feel good about Self, a person needs to knock everyone else off the I-feel-confident-in-myself soapbox. Why? How does belittling a person make anyone believe they are more important and stand on a higher rung of the so-called ladder?

There's a joyful life just waiting to be embraced. Life is meant to feel good. It is our own personal interpretation of _______ (work, relationships, money, and etc.) that holds us in the position of powerlessness. Ouch. We mirror, attract, situations based on what we believe while following our intuition – perception. Motivate Self and Others with love, compassion, and empowering words. There is so much satisfaction in feeling the energy vibration rise when intent is focused on encouraging versus dismantling.

We create our own heaven and hell. The challenge to leaving behind fear is to go within and find the Hidden One – the Shadow – and learn from this aspect of Self. The Shadow has so much to teach. Do not resist this awareness. Seek the part of “I” pushed out of the way in hopes of never revealing. Ah, for only a fool would believe it possible. As a wise one shared with me using visuals tools I could then comprehend, he explained energy needs three three things in order for the current to flow – a positive, a negative and a ground. “It is YOU that has defined positive as good, negative as bad and grounding as the wire that keeps it functioning properly. There is no good. There is no bad. There is only awareness.”

Mantra of Possibilities

2010-08-27T09:33:00.003-04:00

Spending time and energy working with my shadows, the parts of me that I've buried alive and attempted to keep hidden deep within the interior walls (the naysayer, victim, lack-luster, unworthy, unqualified, incapable and etc.), has provided me with insight and key elements of wisdom.

Becoming friends with my shadow is providing me freedom from the nagging and unjustified monkey mind. As quick as thoughts start down the spiral of despair and nastiness, changing them to beliefs with loving qualities has become easier. Each time another shadow makes an entrance I envision hugging myself and whispering in the ear of the shadow, "I forgive you. I love you." The six word phrase is repeated over and over until the emotions of anxiety, pain or drama settles and I feel more at peace. I know miracles are happening with each expression of love and forgiveness of Self with focus shifting to living peacefully.

Get to know and become friends with ALL of you - even the events you claim as a mistake. There are no mistakes, only awareness. Allow your emotions to guide your internal healing. Joyful and painful moments serve as a compass leading us to our true desires. Without conflict, we would not know peace. Go ahead, tell Self, "I won't be doing that again," when you remember a bad relationship, a less than enjoyable job, a regretted purchase five minutes after it was made. Realizing what you do not want to experience the phrase "How does it get better than this?" can easily serve as a new mantra. Opportunities will begin to open because while you were so busy believing how bad life sucked, it was impossible to see the possibilities. What are the infinite possibilities?

Shadow Work

2010-08-24T09:53:00.003-04:00

A day late and much wiser for it. I’m dealing with my shadows. They are parts of me (memories) that I have blocked, are unaware of (from past lives) and have simply forgotten. The shadows are the unresolved issues within me - emotional triggers/reactions/behavioral patterns. And yes, you have them as well. That’s a good thing. It’s time to start acknowledging that side of Self.

Awareness is vital for it holds the keys to unlocking what is either out of reach or hidden from us. The more I’m exposed to the subject of shadows the more I’m realizing how unaware I was to them. I heard the descriptive title shadows for the first time last week and now it seems to be my new theme word. Let me clarify, I’ve heard the word used in the same context, but hadn’t felt its meaning and value as I do at this moment. It’s time to heal another aspect of me – the part that I dread and feared for all these years.

Emotions serve as a compass. When we are happy go lucky and joyful, we are in our vibrational flow and aligned with Self. When we begin to spiral downward with negative thoughts, we are no longer in the flow and life seems to suck big time. It hurts and the more we dwell on the pain and frustration, the more we fall downward like a slinky on a tall, steep staircase. Tumbling with an occasional thud, but the momentum seems to carry us down, down, down until we consciously say, “STOP!”

I’ve found the courage to see the shadow for what it is – a part of me. My shadows affect you and yours affects my life. Working individually on our shadows, yet united, we co-create the lives we truly attract. Let’s begin by appreciating the shadow’s willingness to come to the surface to be recognized. Get to know the shadow and make friends with it. Love this part of me. It serves as another gateway for love and light – the source of healing energy. The biggest realization that I’ve noticed is how I use distraction (television, radio, chores, busy work, and etc) to keep my mind unfocused on the issues at hand. I’m taking time each day, as often as I can, to allow silence to fill the environment. Without the distractions, I am not interfering with my own personal awareness and this provides me the opportunity to become familiar with the destructive patterns/behaviors so I can alter my beliefs.

I foresee this will be a topic I continue to discuss on this blog. The flowing is more or less the suggestions that I’ve noted for me and wish to share with you as it may help you with your own enlightenment:

By being thankful for what you have versus what you don’t have will help a person to get closer to aligning with Self.

Know you are loved.

You are never alone for your Higher Self is always with you and will never ever separate connection with you. We are surrounded by angelic guides gently offering guidance and with freewill we choose to either accept or deny the assistance. Spend time in nature. Talk to the trees, the rocks, the birds and the deer – pausing long enough to hear to their wisdom. Slow down and listen.

There is power in your thoughts and words.

Learn to silence the monkey-mind and turn off the distractions we use to drown out his chatting.

Focus on and see the goodness of Self – the Universe.

Value Self as a Being of Pure Love and Light.

Ask “What are the infinite possibilities?” from a point of positive belief (not lack).

Know that you are the creator of your own reality – Perception and Awareness are key.

Love and Forgive Self. Always be compassionate with Self.

A knowing comes from the Heart; a thought is the current belief in this moment.

“A belief is only a thought I continue to think. A belief is only my habit of thought; it’s only a practiced thought – a belief is only a thought that I think a lot.” –Abraham/Hicks (The Vortex - Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships, written by Ester and Jerry Hicks)

Uncovering A Self-Imposed Truth

2010-08-20T10:54:00.003-04:00

After taking care of business, a friend and I sat in her office talking about our boys; her three teens and my two adult sons. Conversation rolled from sports, interests, natural skills and shifting sixteen year old attitudes. A phrase she said brought out a self-imposed truth I'd suppressed deep within. She mentioned how one of her sons “has it figured out that the world is his oyster and everything is available to him. All he has to do is go for it.” She followed up with, “You know, like when we realized it.”

Without a hint of hesitation, I replied, “I've never really felt that way. For me it's always been a sense of survival.” Metaphorically speaking, I dropped to my knees. An awareness, a perception of life, a belief of my truth was in that moment brought out into the spotlight for me to view, bless and release.

“Time is only there to impede the soul of doing its job - to enjoy the things that surround us.” -Jeremiah Kochis

Several days later, I spent a few minutes with a dear friend chatting about something completely different – yet carrying the same emotions. With tender words of kindness he expressed how he believes I am being tested to find, speak, express my truth. Finding the value of saying “No” to things that don't resonate for my highest good. Sitting next to him on a park bench in the shade of the porch, I said, “I'm so tired of the struggle. I don't like this 'being tested' crap. I want to enjoy life without all the struggle.”

He responded in the big brother way he always does with me, “Turn it around. How are you looking at this? Turn it around and see the lesson. See the good in the experience. It's only awareness. You have to live from here,” he tapped is chest indicating the heart. “How can you change your perception?”

We are loved beyond our verbal comprehension of the meaning. Allow the love from within your heart to guide you. Trust Self. Bless each situation and use the experiences like a compass to direct the journey. We are guided to express and live our truth. How can you change your perception to that of knowing there is unlimited potential? What are the infinite possibilities?

A personal notation - sometimes shared insight helps to open the thoughts of others. Many blessing to you...

Childish Behavior

2010-08-16T10:12:00.002-04:00

Without a plan or written list of things to do, the next three days will be what we adults label impulsive as I live in the moment. I was blessed with three consecutive days off in a row. After I did my woo-hoo dance in the office my first thought was, Yes! Thank you. And the following kinda went like this: I can go up to Marquette again. Or I could stay home and finally get my garden taken care of. Oh, camping sounds like fun. I could hang out in nature and do nothing all day. The 'I could's' became overwhelming. Another list started forming, I could make candles, draw, finish writing my novel, clean the closets, make jewelry.... I could... The sound of the needle scratching over the vinyl record filled my mind. Stop! What was I doing? I was becoming exhausted and I still had plenty of days to work before the mini-vacation.

What happened to the days when I was a child and flowed from one moment, one event, one activity to another? There was no itinerary, no plan of action, no list to scratch off the completed projects – it was just what it was. In a way I feel a bit lost as to what to do. Letting go of the I hafta's is a little trickier than I expected. There's this compulsive need to make a list, but refusing to do so is actually quite liberating. As a matter of fact, the normal routine is to have the rough draft of my Monday morning blog post completed by 8am and today the computer was turned on at 9:15.

When we were children, our thoughts were on the activities we were currently participating in not focused on what's next. Shifting from playing with my toys upstairs to romping around the neighborhood with the boys next door to riding bikes to the beach to going to another friend's house and eventually ending up back home in time for dinner. A simple suggestion turned into, “Okay, let's go.”

As I live in the moment for the next couple of days may my need to control every minute fall to the wayside and hopefully spillover into the following days when I go back to the office. Oh look, a humming bird feasting on the nectar of the flowering bush outside the window. Gotta go.

Written Signs

2010-08-13T09:30:00.006-04:00

When a particular animal repetitively enters into our day-to-day activities, wonder become curiosity and soon we ask, "Oh, what are the deer trying to tell me?" Like a friend pokin' ya in the ribs to get your attention, the deer have a message. Time might be spent searching the meaning in books, on the internet and some will choose to go within for inner guidance. What about words?

Singular words stick out in a crowd of letters and vowels waiting for me to notice. There have been times when I swear they reach right off the page, grab my shirt collar firmly and say, "Hey, you! Yeah, you! Look at what I'm telling you!" For a period of time the word trust seemed predominate; other times it was love, forgiveness, joy, meditate, and the list continues for pages. Right now it is COMPASSION. I see the ten letter word in articles, quotes posted on social media sites, books, hear it spoken in the post office - everywhere. It's like being back in Jr. High and the English teacher's word of the week is compassion.

"There is a common perception that compassion is, if not actually an impediment, at least irrelevant to professional life. Personally, I would argue that not only is it relevant, but that when compassion is lacking, our activities are in danger of becoming destructive. This is because when we ignore the question of the impact our actions have on others' well-being, inevitably we end up hurting them." -Dalai Lama

The significance of seeing these signs is that it provides us an opportunity for personal growth (if one chooses). There's a sense of 'am I being honest about compassion towards Self and others?' The domino effect can move our internal dialog to ask, "What aspects do I wish to change?" "Is there another way?" "Am I open to exploring new possibilities?"

It is during these moments knowledge expands and the matrix of the Universe exposes a little more of what once seemed hidden. Awareness to options, altered beliefs accepted and again our wisdom evolves. Appreciation for the experiences encourages mindsets to change as the desire to be authentic becomes the focus. Not only do we see the world clearer, we're able to light the way for others who wish to empower the potential within themselves like a lighthouse on a foggy morning.

Character Building

2010-08-11T08:13:00.002-04:00

How can someone else speak your truth? I’ve been observing this question for a considerable amount of time and am finding it quite mind-boggling. Seriously, how can someone else convey your truth?

I’d just turned on my television and the morning news host says something about a reporter “will be on right after the commercial break with the truth about” the scandal of so-and-so at ‘big corporation’. My first thoughts were, How can they speak truth for so-and-so? Did they even speak to the man? And then I observed a misinformed truth at work several days ago. An important question was brought up and two co-workers answered the questions for me. Fact: the two individuals were not in the office, nor did they have knowledge of what happened and yet their answers were accepted as my truth. Sad to say, it’s a common practice in most aspects of life. Just listen to a rumor.

“Imagine how much productivity would be accomplished if everyone felt appreciated and valued instead of spending time reconstructing their self-confidence.” –Cindy Kochis

We all say things about others. It’s what conversation usually is centered around and in most cases we believe what we are saying is accurate. A percentage of the people will focus on the hurtful and demeaning attributes of an individual while others only mention information that is positive and of their good qualities. We are building characters each time we speak of another person; as a matter of fact – ourSelf.

How often is a judgment of an actress or rock star based on what the press/media reports on the individual you have never met? Or the person who’s mug shot has been plastered all over the six o’clock news claiming to be a bad person. Consider this scene: a 50 year old woman hits the gas instead of the brake and accidently kills a child. What are some of the reactions you are going to hear on the streets and in the coffee houses? “They should throw the book at her.” “Woman drivers!” It’s not necessary for me to continue with the comments; they are already forming in your mind. You’ve judged the person without knowing their truth. You are speaking your opinion about her situation without knowing all the accurate information. You’ve just jumped on the rumor mill merry-go-round without taking time to find out that the woman is the mother of three kids, cares for her elder parents, and works full-time at a children’s trauma hospital. Was compassion for her situation even considered?

This is strictly an observation and message to bring awareness. What characters are you building when you speak your truth about someone else? Are you accurately reporting what you witnessed? Is your interpretation similar to the other involved?

It is what it is….

Leading the Way

2010-08-09T08:14:00.003-04:00

Why do we waste so much time desperately searching for a purpose to our life versus experiencing life. What if it were as simple as to explore joy, happiness, contentment? For most, in order to appreciate what they term a 'blessings' conflict is endured. Can you think of a better way to define desires?

You wanted a job; you got a job. You wish your boss was better at managing the staff; you got another job where the boss is a better manager. You wish you had job where the boss was a better manager and you wanted to be paid more money; you got a different job with a better boss and paid more money. You wanted a job, a boss that’s a great manager, paid more money and now you want more vacation time… Can you see how most of us define our desires? This works with every aspect of life – homes, friendships, lovers, relationships, jobs, cars, vacations, etc.

The key element is not to “want” from the lack of not having, but believing it is possible to obtain. It is possible. There are no limits, except those that you believe.

I heard myself repeat the phrase, “It’s not a race,” to a dear friend of mine who is just becoming aware of their gifts. Right now the person is reading, researching and consuming information faster than I could eat a plate of chocolate chip cookies. It’s as though they feel they have to catch up to the others at the party. Funny thing is that was me years ago. A good friend of mine sat down with me and made the point over and over this is not a race, there is no finish line, take your time in evolving and observe as you become aware of/remember what you already know.

The knowledge is there within each of us. Slow down (especially if you feel life is going too fast, chaotic, out of control) and value the time spent alone. Take time to listen to your inner wisdom. It’s there, I promise you. When you connect to the internal wise one you find no reason to seek your answers outside of Self. I suppose for some it can happen in a matter of a short period of time, and others it could take years. With a desire to open up to your own awareness, you can accomplish anything. Recently, while in meditation, I receive the message "Life is about joy, experiencing contentment, and when you (I) do, the feeling from within will be indescribable. Relax and bless all situations. They are your internal compass."

Soaking in the Words

2010-08-06T08:25:00.010-04:00

I was driving down a county road when the cluster of words came to me begging to be put to paper. It doesn’t matter who the phrase is intended for or how they come across the poem. It always comes into light in perfect time.

Self -love, -worth, -appreciation, -gratification may not come easy some days. Years back I found in a book or on the internet to verbalize the statement “I love you” in the mirror. At first I felt a tad bit awkward. Okay, downright silly. I wondered how this was going to help me feel better about the person looking back at me. In a short amount of time it became easier and less (for a lack of a better word) embarrassing. A new sense of pride, appreciation, value percolated and the statement developed strength. There is power in our words, especially the unspoken.

When the world seems less than ideal, I’ve learned it is important to care for the sensitive person inside. Being empathetic is a blessing and at moments not so much. On one hand it makes forgiveness easier because I understand – I feel what the other person is feeling. With this gift of sensitive energy and strong intuition, it took me a long time to realize how easy it is to absorb the ‘not-so-nice information’ internally. Mood swings like a pendulum slamming to the left and then the right without resistance.

“Claiming “I’m fine” with tears flowing internally is a difficult way of life.” –Cindy Kochis

Years ago, I became aware of how other people’s ‘stuff’ affected me. It became very important for me to explore ways to resist the temptation to and prevent myself from soaking up their vibrational energy and take claim to it involuntarily. The ‘ick’ clouds my mood and provides the monkey mind with destructive ammunition. Again, there is great power in unspoken words. The ongoing practice to shield the aura is vital. A few of the techniques I find work the best for me is meditation, journaling, affirmations and an evolving believe in Self.

Yesterday was one of those ouch days at work. My aura was wide open like a barn door and a dry sponge in the heart of it eager for anything. I soaked up the aggression, the insecurity and whatever else was ready to attach to my being. I felt as though I’d been beaten with the metaphorical 2x4 and then toss out into the highway in front of a Mack truck. Splat. It was a long ride home once I completed my shift. After I tossed another tissue into the trash, rolled over, snuggled deep in the safety of my quilts, I recalled what I wrote over a week ago:

“I extend to you

The security of a mother’s hug

The warmth of a lover’s embrace

The joy of child’s curiosity

The peace of calm water

The harmony in a celebrated moment

This is the gift of love I share with you…”

Early Morning Energy

2010-08-02T09:36:00.008-04:00

More time was spent tossing and turning last night than the act of sleeping. Odd dreams of my young sons and I in a house that wasn't ours, a snippet of working in a job I've never held, and any of the other bazaar glimpses I remember involved cleaning. In the house, that wan't ours but was, I washed dishes in a household kitchen with two sinks and getting the trash ready to be taken out. At the place of work, I had to run across the street to the bakery for more paper towels because our office ran out and no one filled out a requisition form. Funny thing was while I was being told by the employees of the bakery that they too were out of paper towels, the owner gave me some outdated sherbet in plastic sleeves instead of the usual bucket. It did look yummy.

At 4:11 a.m. I effortlessly woke up wondering, "what's with all the cleaning?" As quick as the thought entered, it was gone and my internal conversation started to focus on meditation. Yeah, weird I know. I was awake and unable to slip back in to sleep. I suppose it could have been simply that I didn't want to do any more cleaning.

The thoughts filling my less than groggy mind were not on the why's to meditate, but on the techniques and sacred space journeying. Did you know that zoning out or daydreaming is a form of meditation? How about sitting and watching the waves lap up the shoreline? It's not just about sitting Indian style with palms face up balancing on your knees with thumps and index fingers lightly pressed together to create a circle. It's actually less complicated (and you cannot do it wrong). It is about allowing (giving opportunity) the spirit within to communicate freely with the mind and body on all dimensions. We receive the best information and guidance from our internal compass for the soul's only intent is for the highest good.

As I tossed one more time this time facing the curtain dancing in the wind, I started thinking of the energy flow that occurs during the Heart Source Healing Guided Meditation I wrote. It was then I realized we harmonize, balance and cleanse the chakras, but what about the other energy ports in our physical bodies. The 'oh yeah' and 'ah-ha' phrases settled and I wondered why I hadn't thought of this earlier? They deserve just as much attention as the chakras.

Hands are well known portals for energy flow. The loving touch of a mother or loved one can bring comfort and peace of mind. The healing touch of someone who cares during a crisis instills support. The reminder of purity when a young child touches your hand and says, "I love you."

Our bodies consist of a network of energy points (hands, feet, hips, elbows, shoulders, etcetera). And what some may not understand is these portals are connected to a matrix of all energies. For example: How do you feel around one person versus another? If your were standing next to person A in a group of their friends, how would their energy differ than when alone? Change it around again and while standing next to person A surrounded by person B's aggressive peers, how does the network of energy feel?

Energy is information. Our intuition deciphers the energy and provides us with information internally though our sensory system. The "good feeling" you have about a person, the "fear" of the location. It's how we make choices.

So, at four o'clock this morning what were you thinking about? I remembered to add a technique to assist listeners of Heart Source Healing Guided Meditation to harmonize, balance and cleanse all their energy ports.

I'm Attracting That?

2010-07-30T10:26:00.005-04:00

The repetitive sounds of the waves and the breeze fill my ears with the sweet harmony of bliss. Me and Lake Michigan and wet sand between my toes. Only a few people have claimed their piece of paradise as I find mine. The fold-up chair is placed in a perfect spot so the occasional wave can tickle my feet. Pad of paper and pen ready to capture whimsical thoughts and dreams as odd looking beach bugs scurried on the hot sand running to and fro and rarely in a straight line. These were the thoughts I had yesterday when I began to journal. Quickly they changed as awareness of the law of attraction was making its point.

Here's insight to yesterday's journal entry and a wonderful example of how our vibrations affect what we are manifesting. On the way out here, I was made aware... yes, I noticed it. If law of attraction is listening – paying attention – boy, am I in trouble. At the grocery store, the cashier asked where I was working and if I liked it. My response was less than enthused as I responded, “I'm grateful for the paycheck.” At the post office, the gal behind the counter weighing my box to be shipped mentions she hadn't seen me in a long time and asked where I was working and how I like it. This time I feel a touch of resentment build internally as I told her, “I'm going to the beach for the first time all summer.” The discussion went from me feeling good about my day off to not so good vibrations when I mentioned that I work most weekends and usually work six days a week with several short shifts so I barely hit 40 hours. Wow, at this point my day of relaxation is not feeling so relaxing.

My journal entry then continues: This is not what I want... so how do I manifest things I enjoy, feel valued and respected, receive a fair paycheck for my services, and without all the office drama-luster. My goal is for the highest good for all with harm to none ~ my focus is to assist others. I am a writer with many stories to tell... stories to warm the heart, inspire people to be authentic and encourage personal growth.

“Women are repeatedly accused of taking things personally. I cannot see any other honest way of taking them.” -Marya Mannes

As I sit at my computer this morning allowing my fingers to tap dance on the keyboard I truly see how awareness brings change in various forms. A common thing we as a society whine about is our jobs. I most certainly am not discrediting my employers as I am very grateful I am one of their employees. We have fun and plenty of 'good stuff' is accomplished. The ultimate point being made is to pay attention to how your energy feels when speaking on any subject.

Observing the rise and fall of our vibration can make a difference in our perception. The key element to manifesting is the focus of energy we feel in any given moment. Yesterday, I allowed my emotions to be altered by the lack I was feeling. Today, as I get ready for work, I am feeling gratitude. Joy that I have a job close to home, every time I pick up the phone I have the opportunity to make a new friend and assist them to the best of my abilities, and for the steady paycheck.

Going back to my afternoon at the beach, I made a list of questions to create an internal dialog for change, bring forth emotions and view my desires on paper. I closed the journal after I wrote '...and do what? Listen to the music of the waves and wind.'

Today as you go about your business, note the emotions you feel when speaking – and listening. Are you aware of your manifestations?

Exposing the Internal Chatter

2010-07-26T11:41:00.006-04:00

Waking up from an odd dream this morning, I picked up my journal to help sort out the bits and pieces I remember - and the parts I’d rather forget. It was odd. Really strange. As the words were written, the internal dialog morphed into reasons why it's a good idea to journal. It didn’t take me long to realize the subject of today’s blog.

Sitting with a pad of paper and a pen, allow the internal conversation to flow - Self-Love 101. For some it can be considered Problem Solving 101. Who better to answer your questions and advise you on your quest? Who knows you better? Here’s a more important question, “Who has your best interest at heart?”

Journaling is a great way to get thoughts out of our heads and to better understand our emotions. Some pretty amazing things can be discovered this way. Unresolved resentments all the way to hidden joys are given the opportunity to flow from deep within the subconscious and into awareness. During the writing process is not the time to overanalyze. Let the words be as they appear. Once on paper you can decide to review the creation or get rid of it. Embrace or release - author’s choice.

"Remember, there is a creative energy that wants to express itself through you"; "Don't judge the work or yourself. You can sort it out later"; "Let God work through you." -Julia Cameron (The Artist Way, published 1992, 2002, page XV)

The process of the internal dialog can have significant healing properties. Explain and describe your emotions (good and bad, no holding back) the way you feel in that very moment. Once exposed, you can determine if you wish to continue this state of mind or if you want to make a change. Awareness provides us the key elements and opportunity to learn more about me, myself and I. We have multiple personalities that expect to be heard. We embody the Worker, the Slacker, the Lover, the Loner, the Adult, the Child, the Creator, the Destroyer, the Overwhelmed, the Calmness, the Aggressor, the Peace-Maker and there's more within. Each one has a voice and craves attention.

Writing out desires assists in clarifying the I want’s and can begin to pave a trail for the journey, or at least machete chop the jungle growth out of the way. Used as a tool, it can help plot out the baby steps to reach the intended goal. Some people use this technique as a way to work out a five year plan.

For me it was a tool to clear my head and, by chance, accomplish today’s post. After I finish this article, I believe I shall work on that Gratitude List I keep in my journal.

Keep writing, my friends.

Trusting the Chosen Path

2010-07-23T08:05:00.004-04:00

Returning to the truck, water squished between my toes inside the hiking boots that once, years ago, bore a waterproof tag. The torn and worn beyond comfortable jeans are soaked from the rain jacket down. Rain water dripped from my bangs into my eyes. I was literally soaked from the top of my head to the soles of my feet and haven’t felt that refreshed in a long time.

Yesterday, after waking up from my second nap of the day, my body begged for movement. Working my backyard garden in the rain is a common practice, but not what I was craving. I wanted longer strides to my steps. A raising of the heart rate. A hike on one of the nearby Nature Preserve trails. The gentle summer sprinkle turned to rain and as the first few steps were firmly placed on the path it began to pour.

The 1.3 mile trail is marked by a well-traveled path. Signs are not necessary here. The aroma of wet cedar, birch trees, grasses, wild flowers and countless other plant life exhilarated my sense of smell. The entrance is in a thick cluster of cedar trees leading the adventurer to an area where, this time of the year, the thick brush is almost taller than the five feet five inches I claim. The corridor weaves to the left, then the right and at points I am unable to see more than a few feet ahead of me. This was when the phrase a friend offered to me to ponder returned from memory. He said, “Trust in the trust of trusting.”

Read the line again. “Trust in the trust of trusting.” The meaning, for me, is profound when repeated aloud and becomes even more so each time I repeat it internally. It’s easy to say we trust something, however to believe and feel the unconditional faith is forever evolving. To relax and be free of the need to control a situation or circumstance. The thought, “If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans,” just now crossed my mind.

Approaching another tight corner I trusted the path would lead me safely to the clearing I know is ahead. Something seemed different. A sense of unfamiliarity. I've walked this trail countless times, in all sorts of weather conditions; under blue skies, trees swayin’ in the harsh fall winds, snow up past my knees. For a new-comer walking this particular part of the path where the tree branches hang low and the bush full of red berries have overgrown the space may pose intimidation and the sense of the claustrophobia. A choice will be made to either trust the path is safe or be convinced by internal forces to turn back towards the vehicle with the intent to try a different day.

The deeper into the swampland I got the more I understood how my emotions accurately measure the level of trust. I know I will be okay. I know that everything has its season and it always works out. But this refers to the future, what about right now? How do I feel about work, my relationships, my financial situation? At what level am I trusting that in this moment I am being taken care of by the Universe? Am trying to control it? Am I, as the saying goes, giving it to the angels and God to handle? Or am I holding myself back from the joy I wish to experience? What am I allowing life to be?

Pausing on one of the sturdy wooden bridges, I watched the creek flow effortlessly towards the lake. The temptation to release tears of frustration was there, yet something lit up inside my heart and I knew instantly everything is bliss. Life is good. A little further down the trail, as I wiped the rain off my face again, I giggled at the thought, I trust the waterproof mascara will hold up under the rain.

Sit Monkey. Sit.

2010-07-19T11:56:00.007-04:00

See, feel, the knowing within the heart center. It is there - waiting patiently. Distraction can be labeled the culprit, but it is only an action. The monkey mind (ego) often time finds other things for us to tend to versus seeking answers, peace, balance, harmony.

Meditation is a common method for quieting the monkey mind so the intuitive voice can be acknowledged. The line, "I don't have the time," is a well-used excuse and one I've used. There's always another load of laundry to throw in the washer, floors needing vacuuming, dishes to be washed, dust bunnies to be rounded up and put outside, a dog wanting to be groomed and heaven forbid if we didn't clip our toe nails! I almost added cleaning the closets but then you'd know I was over dramatizing.

In the silence of our mind, our spirit is able to communicate with Self on many levels. The hesitation or resistance to find our answers through the means of meditation is the ego wishing to control or stifle the situation. Growth cannot happen without light and light comes from love. Believe, or better yet, know that you can do - be - create anything. Become aware of the time spent worrying needlessly and avoidance of personal growth. Change occurred through observation. Nurture the loving being within and the self-imposed barriers will begin to dissolve.

Near the beginning of one of the guided meditation, I wrote, "Feel your thoughts soften as the monkey mind slows down and takes a seat on a comfortable recliner in the back of your mind. He is comfortable. He is silent. This is your time." Meditation can take as long as a deep breath in and the exhale out, or as long as an hour. The choice is up to you.

In the calmness of the mind, the heart center opens to the continuous flow of giving and receiving of love without resistance. Personal healing and the strengthening bond of Self-love permeates to and from your being. Witness the miracles. Open your mind to the powerful energy you already possess. Nothing can stop you from fulfilling your desires. For if you believe, it must be. So it is...

Wordless Conversations

2010-07-16T09:52:00.004-04:00

Wordless conversations surround us. Signs and symbols provide awareness to the truth within. The messages serve as reminders, encouragement, inspiration, warning, in-sight. And they are there, when you see them.

Recently I composed a Guided Meditation titled ‘Nature Within.’ Each time I read it to an audience, the response is magnificent. Words cannot begin to describe the heartfelt emotions emanating from the group. After we’ve had a few minutes to ponder the journey to our sacred space, I ask, “What is the one thing that stood out for you.” It amazes me, a sense of a proud mother, to hear the moment that was to them profound. Of course, I respect everyone’s privacy and no one has to divulge anything they wish to keep silent.

When we look to nature, we find peace. The intriguing part is each symbol can provide a different meaning from one person to another - one situation to another. For example when I see a deer grazing behind near my home, it reminds me to be gentle on my Self and express only loving emotions. Other times the doe can signify that I need to slow down, take time to be aware. A sign received especially while driving. The meanings I receive may or may not vary from you. Each time I go to search the meanings from a book, I sense that I already know the answer. I do. You do, too. All our answers can be found internally when we pay attention. Meditation is a wonderful way to get tuned in, tapped on and connected with our divine Self. It is a gift we can give Self and unites us with our own awareness – our truth.

I would like to share with you a few of my experiences. A single coyote standing in the middle of the road about a half mile ahead, motionless, watching me arrive in my truck. Fear evaporates and is transformed as I see the innocence in his eyes and the expression of unconditional love in his gaze. The turtle on a road far, far away from a natural water source served as a reminder that home is within. It is an emotion I carry with me. A house is a structure; home is the energy and emotions felt. The crows on the side of the road symbolize multi-dimensional information while to others they may see it as a sign of magic or a message from the wise ones. The interpretation is ours to explore. Think about a recent sighting you paused and thought, “What are you trying to show me?” Usually the first thought provides insight to the answer you seek. Here’s where you need to pay attention, is the internal dialog coming from a loving space or from the ego (monkey mind)? I suggest listening to only the communications from the heart.

Explore the following list. What does each represent to you?
Hawk
Dolphin
Butterfly
Deer
Coyote
Ant
Rose
Tulip

Download the FREE worksheet: Nature Within

Time in Motion

2010-07-13T11:52:00.004-04:00

11:11 "Careful of what you’re thinking." Dabbling in numerology that is the line I think of when I see a series of ones. Usually the numbers are noticed on a clock; ironic since I quit wearing a wrist watch after writing the quote “Get a compass, not a clock.” A handful of minutes ago as I walked into my bedroom, the alarm clock read 11:11. The line careful what you’re thinking entered my mind and shifted to “Bless the thought you’re feeling in this moment.”

The movie The Shift with inspirational speaker Dr. Wayne Dyer is currently paused in the living room. The intent was to grab my journal and capture a line from the movie that resonated very deeply within my spirit, but after catching the time and receiving the message, I am writing to you and myself.

“To touch someone’s life is more valuable than any amount of money.” –Dr. Wayne Dyer The Shift

When we focus on ourSelf and ask the question how may I serve, I’m learning – no, I’m witnessing, doors open and abundance flows. I’m not talking about financial abundance, although that’s always welcome, I’m talking about inspiration, ideas, creative ah-ha moments, dharma, purpose. Life is about being happy, finding joy, experiencing peace and doing the things we love. When we let go of the need to please others and do what we believe they want - magic happens. A part of being authentic is finding your music, what makes your soul sing, what fills your heart with passion and allows you the ability to lose track of time while you breathe in life.

“Bless the thought you’re feeling in this moment.” -Cindy Kochis

Highways of Thought

2010-07-12T07:09:00.007-04:00

Patience seemed to be the reaccurring theme as I drove to Marquette Friday morning. It was as though the Universe was reminding me to slow down, take my time, observe the journey, all events happen in perfect timing. Funny thing is I am one of the most patient people you will meet when it comes to receiving holiday gifts. However… when it comes to change, I want it now. Waiting for the green light to go is almost tortuous for this redhead. There is change in the air and I can feel it percolating. Sometime in the near future I will be moving. The ‘when’ part isn’t as important as the acceptance of the idea – moving. As I crested the hill on M-28 a few miles west of Christmas, a town well known for the wooden replica of Santa and Mrs. Claus, there was a sense of I’m almost home. The view of Lake Superior from this vantage point is breathtaking. This relaxed, tension releasing exhilaration felt familiar as though I had come over a hilltop a mile from the road I grew up on. “I’m home.”

The relaxing time up north was spent with family. My cousin Robert passed away in March at his home in Wisconsin and this past Friday his parents hosted a memorial service in his honor. Uncle Terry play Amazing Grace on his favorite clarinet before closing prayer for his son's service. This family tradition started long before I can remember and this was by far Terry's best performance as we sat in silence with freefalling tears. The power of his music embraced all of us. A previously unnoticed garden wind chime twinkled slightly in the still air. Bobbie was there sharing his unconditional love and support in the celebrated moment.

Family and friends joined Aunt Sylvia and Uncle Terry in their garden to continue the celebration of Bobbie’s life. Young children played and investigated the rock pathways, snuggled and napped. Adults shared in memories and plans for the future, food and laughter. A dragonfly perched on a flower was photographed by the camera-packing individuals. Handfuls upon handfuls of wild blueberries were picked from the patch behind the floral garden. Everyone felt at home.

It was good for me to slip away from routine and share the ticking of the wrist watch with family whom I hadn’t seen in about two and a half years. I resisted the temptation to call in sick to work on Sunday and headed back to my Lower Michigan reality late Saturday afternoon. The six hour drive offered plenty of one-on-one time with Self to think, sing to the radio and devour chocolate peacefully without having to share. My thoughts seem to focus on what do I want? If I could create anything, be anything, do anything…what? A fair number of questions were answered listening to the humming of tires rolling effortlessly down Highway 2 and across the Mackinaw Bridge. Others were left unanswered until the time is perfect for revealing. As a dear friend of mine reminds me often, “It’s all in the enfoldment. Allow it to be.”

Silence the Bully

2010-07-05T13:37:00.001-04:00

Self-talk can be more vicious then the roughest, toughest fourteen year old bully leaning on the chain link fence in the schoolyard playground. Do you voice sincerity or can your words of cruelty out wit and pulverize Self-confidence before the bully even has a chance to open his mouth? People tend to believe in the demeaning thoughts without even realizing it. Go ahead and make a simple mistake like not entering in a payment into your checkbook and finding the expensive error on a holiday weekend. What would your monkey mind (ego) say?

The beautiful part of becoming aware of a once unnoticed belief is when the discovery is made. The Oh... moment when the chin lowers towards the chest and the “I'm sorry, but it'll be okay,” is said silently to Self. It's fine to experience absent mindedness. Considering there is no right way, no instruction manual, you cannot get anything wrong. It is through perception we interpret what's good or bad.

In a conscious effort to living what we feel is a better life, some people overextend their reach and set their expectation too high. They strive for imaginary perfection, doing what they believe others expect of them, and when they fall short lack of worthiness settles in the mind. Learning to be gentle on Self is vital. The harmful words expressed internally will hold us back from joy, peace, harmony...

Attempt as many times as it takes to turn the mental dialog around to listen to what you wish to hear. Sit quietly and begin to talk to Self as you would your best friend, or ninety-four year old grandmother. Console the internal being with encouragement. Embrace her with comforting feelings of forgiveness and love. Talk to the inner child with kindness and with the nurturing voice of a loving parent. Focus on the qualities of life you value and deserve. Cry if need be; it is through the tears we release so many emotions. There is so much power in our non-verbalized words. Use them to reinforce the joy, peace and harmony on your journey of personal growth. Know that life is meant to be loving and kind, you are not here to suffer. Forgive the experiences in your life that have created change. See the situation as a blessing to motivate your desires. Tell Self your dreams and ambitions. Feel the movement of excitement raise your spirits and surround you. Never give up on hope. Miracles happen when you speak with love.

Walking on Words

2010-07-02T07:33:00.004-04:00

Tuned in, tapped on to all those words of wisdom. How often is a person's opinion and love-lacking advice taken to heart? I've met a few people who have the ability to toss those conjoined letters and vowels and scatter them onto the floor like confetti with total disregard to the manipulated meanings. There are days I wish I could do that – throw my self-doubts and worries into a heap and simply walk away. Wouldn't that be nice. Like dirty laundry piling in the utility room hamper, eventually it will start to stink and reproduce like rabbits. I can see the headlines now, “Overpopulation of People's Stuff! Watch Your Step!”

Advice seems to be everywhere telling us 'be happy,' 'let it go,' 'no one can take away your dignity without your permission' and yadda dadda dadda dadda. But... What if you work in a hostile environment where the lies and deceptions are so intertwined into the fabric of the office truth no longer exists. The relationship in which you are completely blind to the unhealthy nature of its existence. Or the friends and family members who voice their dissatisfaction to the decision to rock the boat and alter your life to fit your personal desires. There are so many to-the-core realities the simple quote band-aids cannot fix. The phrases of inspiration are reminders and affirmations to help guide desires; a target in the wind for you to shoot towards. All attempts to bury and stifle raw emotions felt without expressing them one way or another will backfire.

If you want change, make the decision. I know, easier said than done. Don't hold back your emotions. In the mood to giggle? Go ahead. Inspired? Create something new. Having a rough day when the weight of the world seems to be crashing down on your shoulders is okay. It's bound to happen. Have the courage to cry. It takes more internal strength to be vulnerable than to manufacture the statement, “everything's fine.” Give power to all of your emotions. Allow the drop-to-your-knees-in-pain moments to be felt and release the rivers of tears to cascade down your cheeks. Be what it is you are feeling in this moment. Once the release has expelled, finding the joyful pieces you left nearby will be easier to gather.

Positive changes begin with seeking the blessing in your current situation. Big, small, it doesn't matter as long as you work towards a loving, nurturing relationship with Self. Practicing peace daily with your internal vocal cords will strengthen your focus and assist you in detaching from the unwanted drama. What does the intuition say when you ask, How is this affecting me now? For you, my words of wisdom goes like this: be who you are without hesitation - be authentic - be You.

Blossoming Opportunities

2010-06-28T11:16:00.005-04:00

Opportunities are popping up like daisies with the winds of change rearranging a few things I wasn't anticipating. There are a handful of weeds going to seed in my garden of life and I think it's wonderful. They serve as reminders that the experiences are not meant to be flawless. They are lessons yet to enlighten and possibly challenge current beliefs. Perfection is only interpretation – an illusion. It is what it is and we are eternally evolving.

“This or something better is now manifesting for me in totally harmonious and satisfying ways for the highest good for all concerned.” -Shakti Gawain

A couple of years ago I wrote the quote "Get a compass, not a clock" to serve as a reminder to follow the heart at its pace and stop keeping track of exterior influences. So often we seek guidance from outside sources and shushing the all-knowing voice within. At times we are in such a hurry to get to the mind-made finish line we don't take the time to become aware of internal wisdom. We manifest every situation we deem good and bad into our existence. “Careful what you wish for” is a statement worth remembering.

As for me in this moment, I'm still getting used to the idea of what I will term as 'an upcoming life altering change' I've recently discovered. The puzzle pieces are still falling into place and some still hidden from view. The missing pieces are probably on the floor under the chair I'm sitting on; if you have spent time working on puzzles at your dining room table I'm sure you understand the metaphor.

There are many changes happening right now for a large number of people. Isn't wonderful? Sure, a little scary because the journey is a bit unpredictable. See, that's the joyful part. We are breaking new ground and pushing through the mind-made jungle to get to our desired destination. The key element is to be patient, easy on Self and rest when needed. There are no deadlines. Find ways to let go of the accumulated stuff (mental and physical) that no longer serves your highest good. Like a fluttering butterfly in the garden - travel light. New opportunities will feel magical when there isn't so much baggage to carry on the adventure. Enjoy the upcoming changes as awareness expands and opportunities blossom.

Are you in the midst of an unexpected change? Share your positive insight with me.

Pick a Voice, Not Just ANY Voice

2010-06-25T09:10:00.003-04:00

What do you deserve? Are you unknowingly holding yourSelf back because you don't feel worthy, smart or talented? Thoughts of, I'm not good enough. Someone else has already done it. So-and-so is much better than I am. Whose voice are we listening to? If we are focusing our attention on the voice of our Inner Self – Higher Self – the Universal voice – Heart Source – God – that part of You that speaks Your truth – it would express only love.

We could plunge into the deep well of ego, but it's not how I want to share this precious time with you. Not today. Let's journey in the direction of Self awareness. There is peace in our monkey minds when we listen to the soft, loving, gentle and sometimes barely above a whisper inner voice that is Self.

The transition of manifesting reality comes from emotions towards Self, what we believe we're worthy of and where we focus our energy consciously and subconsciously. We deserve to be loved. We deserve to enjoy all of life's bounty. We deserve limitless amounts of joy. You and I have infinite potential to accomplish any and every -thing by releasing fear, the sensation of lack, and doubt. Some days it will seem easier to do than others, but keep practicing. That's all it is. You cannot do this wrong since there is no right way. It is the repetition of strengthening our Inner voice that encourages it to become loud and clear.

Meditation is one way of establishing a stronger connection to Self. By taking even a few minutes when waking up, in a stressful moment, in a joyful moment or as you close your eyes before sleep, will assist in developing your bond with Self. There are many versions of meditation: sitting with legs crossed, hands palm side up resting on the knees and eyes closed; listening to a guided meditation; repeating a phrase/mantra; and even watching the sunrise/sunset. The list is long and I believe you will find your favorite way of traveling inward and finding your sacred space within.

There is so much in life to explore. No matter what someone else has ever said to you to cause any form of heartbreak, they are only words. It's time to step out of the muck, cleanse off and release the binding affects that hold you back. Take a moment and tell Self, “I love you. I respect you. I forgive you and all that have brought harm to me or others. I deserve to give and receive only the purest of love.”

Give your dreams and desires the freedom from the less-than-loving voice to experience your Soul's expressions. -Cindy Kochis

Calming the Great Lake

2010-06-21T11:11:00.004-04:00

Drifting closer to sleep thoughts rolled in and out of my mind like waves of Lake Michigan lapping onto the sandy shoreline. Relaxation consumed my body until I internally heard the words, “What do you think about in the empty space between turning off the lights and sleep cradles your mind, body and spirit?”

I ran to my office to hunt down my journal and wrote until 1:20am.

Since work, the dread of, seems to be a common issue, let’s spend a few minutes on the subject. I’ve said it, you’ve said it, “Ugh, I don’t wanna go to work. I hate Mondays.” If the job is undesirable, consider ways to move closer towards something more suited to the passion seated inside the creative mind. Will taking a new look at your employment help to ease the frustrations? Currently I work in customer service and try to look at is as though I am going to meet a lot of really wonderful people every day. Yes, some days are a little harder than others, but I continue drawing my attention to the growing gratitude list. I live within a 15 minute drive. I work with some really wonderful and carrying co-workers. The perks are generous. And so forth. Do remember I am human and bad days happen; on more than one occasion the little cheerleader within has thrown her pom-poms on the floor and kicked them to the side. Emotions settle, I realign with the perspective I want to place focus on and life is magical again.

We are what we think. We are what we focus our energies on and in reviewing a situation, the more we search for signs to establish and alter our truths. In silence of nightfall, are your thoughts centered on love and the day’s joyful events or are you dwelling on loneliness, disappointments, lack, pain?

“Perception ~ take a new look at it. ” –Cindy Kochis

Once aware of this ah-ha moment you start to see how the internal dialog converts Self-talk into belief. When you look in the mirror, what do you say? Are your words gentle, kind, loving and rich with encouragement? Who’s in control, the monkey mind or you?

Fall in love with yourSelf. You are a beautiful person blessed in so many that you may or may not be aware of in this moment. Treat yourSelf as you would a close friend. Nurture yourSelf as you would a child. Embrace yourSelf as you would your grandparent. Trust youSelf enough to know you are perfect in every way just as you are today. Create a gratitude list of the things that provoke joy. Discover the components in life that bring you closer to the person within yourSelf.

Don’t be upset if it takes time to change thought patterns. Realize how many years you’ve developed this habit and understand it takes practice to dissolve it. Please be easy on yourSelf and with determination to experience peace of mind, you can manipulate the white caps waves from crashing with mighty force onto the mental shore to gentle ripples of water.

Goddess Impact

2010-06-18T11:26:00.000-04:00

A relationship can last a lifetime or as long as it takes to smile at a stranger. Each person we encounter will have an impact whether at home, work, even while shopping for eggs and milk.

On Monday, I wrote the line, “No one will ever love me like he did.” It's a very true statement. People may have similar qualities, however we are all unique with our special way of experiencing life. We interpret each interaction differently based on moods, age, circumstances, environment, peers and how we emotionally feel towards the individual in that particular moment.

On the flip side, what impact do you have on others? Do you walk around without regard to those around you or do you go out of your way to be kind and loving? Are you in the mood to seek peace or on the warpath? There are no right or wrong answers to the question, only the extraction of awareness. You have every right to feel the way you do without exception, without apologies, without hesitation. It's not healthy to resist and attempt to stifle emotions. Like a river, if they are blocked and flow is prevented, the energy behind it builds until it either overflows or bursts.

“There are no right or wrong answers to the question, only the extraction of awareness.” -Cindy Kochis

There are many avenue in which to express what you are feeling. The objective is to find what works best for you. For example you could call a close friend, write in a journal, meditate, and even beating a little blue ball in a game of racquet ball will help in some situations. The goal is to move the energy out of the system/mind without hanging onto any unwanted residual affects. In other words, retain the memory of things that make you feel good and let it go of the rest. Ask yourself, “Is this for my highest good?”

Unless you are in the performing arts, don't waste your time (or mine) pretending to be someone you are not; well, only if you want to. Part of being authentic is being you – in the Now. I've surprised many people with my inability to react the way they expect. I will not be cheerleader if I'm not in the rah-rah mode, I will not be the over-actor, I will not fake it for anyone at anytime anywhere.

I have set the intent of “for the highest and best good for all” placing Self first before everyone else. By treating mySelf as a Goddess worthy of a wonderful life experience, it naturally overflows on to how I impact others.

Claim Your Words

2010-06-14T11:25:00.005-04:00

'Easier said than done' is a phrase I feel needs a bit of tweaking. How about it's easy? There is power within our words; messages manifesting among the characters. Do you say statements like, “I can't afford ___,” “I need to lose weight,” “I am no good at ___...” Oh, here's one that just popped into my head, “No one will ever love me like he did.” Now there's a sentence worth celebrating (subject for another day).

In our efforts for Self empowerment, it's wise to be conscious of the thoughts we use casually in our conversations. Use loving and gentle terminology when describing the situation, others and Self. We claim all phrases when it begins with I and I am. Stop and think about it for a moment, what are you declaring? Changing thought patterns (habits) can be simple. Be compassionate towards all things.

“Believing is more than a cluster of consistent thoughts... It is the emotion you feel at this very moment that speaks your inner truth.” -Cindy Kochis

Manifesting starts the moment we give the thought consideration. Aligning with Self is easier than we are led to believe. Set the intention to seek ways to feel better, sense more love, and see the blessings. In other words, use your internal vibrations to accelerate your healing. Where ever we place our attention indicates what we are pursuing. Miracles do happen.

“The way to avoid repeating unwanted situations is to talk about wanted situations. Talk about what you do want; and discontinue dialogue about any unwanted experiences, situations, or results.” -from The Vortex, written by Ester and Jerry Hicks (page 61)

It is easy to assess the power within words. Acknowledge and respond accordingly to your body's reaction. How to you feel when you listen to someone tell you about their child's accomplishments? How do you feel when you listen to the office drama? How do you feel when a lover shares their dreams and hopes? How do you feel when someone rants about how bad their life sucks (disclosing full details)? How do you feel?

Thoughts of the I in Me

2010-06-11T11:32:00.003-04:00

What's up with how people talk about themselves? Recently I was in a clothing boutique and overheard a woman cut herSelf down to the point I was uncomfortable to be within earshot. Sure, years ago you would have heard me rattle on about my obnoxious red hair. I stand out in a crowd of blondes and brunettes. Time has lapsed, the opinion has evolved and I treasure this gorgeous wavy hair that flows over my shoulders and down my back for it is unlike everyone else's. I stand out in a crowd.

Uncertain where this post was leading, I took a break and walked 13 minutes and 27 seconds on the treadmill. I stopped when the cliché what came first, the egg or the chicken filtered into my noggin. Huh? “What came first, the belief or the observation?” Better yet, “What do you expect?” Are you listening for the words of inadequacy versus encouragement? Some people will say such horrific things about themselves hoping the audience (those listening) will do everything possible to convince the speaker they're incorrect. Is this a form of reinforcing disbelief? Why do we do this to ourSelf? The more I write this entry the more questions I create. How can we move out of this vicious cycle of internal destruction?

There's a well known saying, we are hardest on ourselves than anyone else. What would happen if we were to take 5 minutes a day and list only the positive things we contribute to the world? Shame on you if the immediate thought, “this will be a short list,” crossed your mind. With practice, the list will grow in length. There is power in our words - more than we realize. Words have the ability to transform, move, shift, create, inspire, encourage, connect and (most importantly) define our beliefs. You are special in so many ways. What you contribute to the world is unique and is of value. When you speak of yourSelf, seek ways to express your individuality with worthy statements.

Free download: Power of Words worksheet.

Please note: This blog post is meant to encourage awareness in Self-talk. If you are depressed or feel you need help, please seek assistance from a certified professional.

Rules - Smules

2010-06-07T14:31:00.001-04:00

What priorities? I'm having fun. Updated business cards are printed and ready to be cut, a pile of items to bring with me accumulate beside my desk and lots of wo-hoo energy buzzin'. Preoccupied with getting ready for the group Guided Meditation I'm leading tonight I neglected writing my Monday morning blog post and there's not a lick of guilt fillin' this mind.

Rules – smules. Whose rules are the right one to follow anyways? And who's to say they aren't wrong? We live in a world where we are led to believe someone else has the power to dictate what's to be right. Are we havin' fun yet? There is nothing wrong (or right) about how we move from moment to moment ~ it is what it is so do it your way. Sure, this way of living has bugged the snot out of people who believed they were an authoritative figure in my life (bosses, co-workers, friends, pedestrians...) and I'm okay with it. I'm such a rebel-rouser. My intent is always set for the highest good for all with harm to none. Being true to yourSelf empowers and strengthens Self-Love. Do what feels right to you and worry less about what others think.

“You can make somebody laugh, but you can't make them happy.” - Laurie Kornilow

When we delay our dreams due to the fear of what will others think, we are not allowing Self the ability to freely fulfill our desires. We tend to waste too much time worrying. What if... Should I... Will this cause... To be honest, I used to have a worry-infested mind. Like any habit (and that's all it is), it takes practice and determination to stop beating yourSelf up in this manner. Trusting everything has a purpose has had a substantial impact in my growth.

”You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” - Ralph Marston

Strictly out of fear, three years ago I would never have considered telling people I'm an intuitive healer. Two years ago I would never have told anyone I'm leading a group Guided Mediation. Today I sit before you doing my Monday morning finger-tapping keyboard dance at 2:30 pm asking, “What will you accomplish in this moment?”

Converting into Words

2010-06-04T10:45:00.002-04:00

Deep within each of us is a beautiful Self loving us more than words can describe. Steady waves of pure energy from God/Source/Universe/Oneness fill us with each passing moment. The advantage of being human is the internal vibration has the ability to fluctuate.

So how do you feel? Want to celebrate with dance and laughter? Want to cry? It's okay to cry, be angry, feel the unfairness and unjustifiably diminished. When the wave appears to be receding, take a moment to evaluate your alignment with Self. Bless the current circumstances for it shows the theme your Soul wishes to focus upon and grow. Your emotions are your guide. Give yourSelf permission to feel all the sensations without judgment, criticism or fear.

Maintaining a daily journal will assist in moving indescribable and unresolved emotions into language. It is liberating to convert feelings into words. Write from the current point of view to really get it out of your system. Scream out from the top of your lungs if you want, “This sucks!” Let yourSelf fall apart so you can move through the undesired moment. When the wave of emotions simmers to a ripple, ask, “How can I best serve my Self?” Seek ways in which to feel good and raise your vibration of love. Know you are loved. Unconditional pure love is always flowing to you from the Universe ~ accept and embrace it as yours.

We learn from each other, please share your techniques with others how you align with Self.

Valuing Self

2010-05-31T09:26:00.003-04:00

I am not better than you; you are not better than I. We are as individual as we are meant to be and isn’t it wonderful.

Self-worth is a component often times altered by outside sources. For example, someone causes anguish about your hair color (weight, height, job status, intelligence, etc) and at first you ignore the claims thinking they’re just jealous. As the taunting continues you look in the mirror and begin to see what they are saying as truth when previously you saw only beauty. It’s hard to hear that there could be something wrong with us or not good enough or not perfect to their standards. The young innocent child in my head states with a stomp of her right foot and hands on her hips, “But why don’t they see me as I see myself?”

“The roles people play in our life can bring forth a variety of beliefs in Self.” – Cindy Kochis

For the sake of this moment you and I are sharing, imagine a life in which another person’s statements and actions towards you have no affect. Wait, if I believe my Inner Guidance and not the projection of what someone else want me to be… Huh. I truly believe people enter our lives to encourage us to acknowledge the truth we already possess within our Soul. In each of us there is love, beauty, peace, harmony and a Spirit eager to influence the world we walk upon.

Be kind to yourSelf. Treat yourSelf as you wish to be treated. We all crave to hear the words, “I love you,” “I think you’re beautiful.” “You are a wonderful friend and lover.” Begin to tell yourSelf the lines you deserve to hear by turning them into a personal mantra. I am in love with my Self. I see my beauty within and express it to others…” Affirmations can work miracles.

Please note – I do not know why it was so important to share this message today. The initial subject for this morning was literally pushed out of my mind so the words above could be composed. The intent of this channeled message is only to serve as a window for you to look through. If you need council, please seek a professional trained to assist you. Many blessings on your journey and know that you are not alone. You are loved by so many.

Hidden Pain

2010-05-29T08:05:00.002-04:00

The phrase “let it go” has been on my mind lately. Not in the sense that I have to let go of something, but misconceptions of the three-word sentence. Let it go has evolved into a mantra we repeat in our determination to be happier people.

“Let go of the heartbreak and everything will be alright.”

“If only I could let go of what he did to me?”

“Why did this have to happen to me?”

All attempts to forget about the person’s actions and situations will not work. Why? Because a festering sliver always comes back to the surface. Think about all the stuff we mentally bury to avoid pain and frustration.

What I’ve learned over the years is the importance of blessing and acknowledging the emotional attachment to the person, place or thing and deciding what it is I truly desire for Self. Allowing myself to feel the joy, feel the pain, feel the emotion I am experiencing in that moment brings freedom. It also gives me the opportunity to view it from another perspective and determine my truth. It takes practice to let Self experience the true, unaltered emotions (moods). Forgiveness is a key element.

Our journey is not about exploring the why’s, it is about loving Self with compassion and without judgment. Does it really matter why you experienced the situation (health, love, change and etc)? Striving to be only joyful while ignoring feeling any pang of heartache will establish energy blocks just as fast as dwelling on sadness. The purpose in life is personal growth. Remember, challenges are our own way of moving us onto the next situation of exploration.

Our perception is the interpreter. Love Self and all involved. Forgive Self and all involved. Feel compassion towards Self and all involved. Live authentically…

Sign Says Work

2010-05-26T10:42:00.001-04:00

When it comes to working on projects, we tend to use delay tactics as an excuse for creative inspiration. Or is it the time away how we conceive brilliant creations? I don't know. Right now I'd rather mow my landscape jungle down to kinda sorta resemble a lawn than edit the novel. Today I can use the excuse of doing it while the cool morning air hasn't been heated to what I consider searing temperatures. I'll refrain and cut the grass tomorrow. Maybe.

In the silence as I drove home last night, it dawned on me what I just told a writer friend was kinda sorta incorrect. I used the phrase “I'm editing” which really isn't accurate. Hackin' and whackin' is more like it. Whole chapters lobbed off the pages. Three of the nicest unnecessary characters I grew fond of will be missed dearly. A chance meeting won't take place... Huh.... A rather large crow (not a raven) just flew past the office window and is now hopping from tree limb to tree limb. Crows seemed to always be around when a dear friend and author wrote and did talks of her trilogy. Must be Elizabeth's way of telling me to quit babbling and get to work.

I Can Only Blame The Redhead

2010-05-26T08:11:00.003-04:00

Doggone Time Devouring Vortexes! It makes me wonder how many dinners have been burnt, projects left incomplete with broken record statements like “I’ll do it in a minute” and loved ones feeling a bit unloved. The online vortexes suck me in and there is no one to blame but myself. Darn. Can’t blame the dog on this one, well, unless I can teach my twelve year old Siberian husky to turn on my computer, log on to the internet and open the social media web pages and email. Uh. That gives me an idea. Wonder if I have enough treats for her?

There is so much to do on the internet. One-sided conversations to read from fellow bloggers, posts from friends I haven’t seen in years and co-workers I spoke to yesterday, and answers to the endless list of questions. Since shopping is one of my least favorite things to do, those sites are left to the shopaholic friends.

To be more productive while sitting here working on the next bestselling novel, I need to establish time limits to internet access. Believe it or not, right now as I type this rant I have two computers and they are both turned on. The laptop is where I work (my composing tool) and the desktop is used as the online portal to the world. Sounds rather sad after putting it into words.

The productive side of me says, “Okay, Cynthia, time to get some work done and quit ranting about wasting time.” The Queen of Delay Tactics rooted deep within is attempting to overrule and entice me to hit F5 (internet refresh button) to see what’s new.

I’m going to take a few minute break and then begin to write the post I’d originally planned for today.

Break It Down To Define

2010-05-24T11:31:00.005-04:00

My clean house can be accredited to delay tactics. Laundry, vacuumed floors, clean toilets, dust bunnies removed from the ceiling fan, organized shed and the list keeps on going. Embarrassing as it may be, I used to claim to be the Delay Tactic Queen. It’s not really a title I want to hold anymore and have found one much more suited to me ~ Giggling Goddess. I enjoy giggling a lot and occasionally finding myself doing it at things no one else finds funny.

Now that I’ve taken you on a short trip off the subject of delay tactics I suppose I need to refocus. Maybe being out of focus is the root cause, not laziness. Could it be as simple as not having a clear vision on the goal? There is so much I want to do and experience.

Here’s a phrase that helps me get clear and define goals: “Who, What, When, Where & How?” Sounds pretty simple and uncomplicated till you start to understand each component's significance. For fun, decide which goal or project you’d like to tackle first. With pencil in hand, write at the top of a blank sheet of paper your goal. I’ll choose “workshops” since this is a service I’ve recently decided to start offering.

Top of page ~ Workshops

Who? I will facilitate the workshops
What kind? Guided Group Meditations
When? Need to set up a schedule
Where? At area stores that offer classes of this nature

“How” is the break it down into bite size pieces so you can map it out word. When looking at the initial response, can you further answer the how question?

In the above sample, the Who is pretty much set, right? Not really. Who will attend is a key element that really cannot be left out. This can be broken down more so it’s time to add another word to the formula - “Why.” Below you can see how I started to add more elements.

Workshops

Who? I will facilitate the workshops
Who will attend?
Why will they attend?
What kind of workshop? Group Guided Meditations
What is my intent?
What kind of interaction will there be?
What’s the time limit I set for individual sharing experience?
How will I prepare?
What do I bring with me?
When? Need to set up schedule
Who do I call?
Where? At area stores that offer classes of this nature
How much? $$

Keep asking the questions until it feels finished. Every time I do this I end up scratching off unwanted desires, drawing arrows to another part of the paper to complete a thought and thinking of one more item to add when I believed I was done. To help seal the goal's fate, I rewrite it on a clean sheet of paper. Hard to have a clear focus when there’s scribbled notes in your field of vision.

Have fun with this project. Be easy on yourself. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Heck you may come up with a very unique way that works miracles and you’ll be teaching us your technique.

Smell Binding Thoughts

2010-05-21T11:16:00.007-04:00

OMG! LOL! WTHAIS? Huh? I’m an old fashion communicator. I would rather talk to the person in which I wish to speak to versus words reduced down to a few simple ‘clicks’ on a keyboard. Vast number of people have converted to chat room lingo that, augh, leaves me feeling ten steps off in left field. Don’t they realize less MIScommunication would happen if a person could hear the emotions reinforcing their full-length words?

Right now I’m dealing with a difference source of message interpretation issues. (sigh) Since about ten o’clock last night the smell of roasting coffee beans has been permeating my nostrils. Let me clearly state, I’m not a coffee drinker. Sure I inhale deeply when near fresh ground coffee, but it is not what roasting coffee beans smell like when they are being toasted. To me, it stinks worse than coffee burning on the bottom of a forgotten carafe. A waft of a particular fragrance can stir up certain memories. The aroma of cinnamon sweet rolls instantly reminds me of my mother and grandma’s fresh out of the oven homemade pieces of heaven dripping with hot caramel coating. The whiff of a certain brand of cigarette brings back memories of my first love. Baby power takes me back to a time when my sons were still in diapers. Oh… the memories. Oops, I’m wandering.

Is this my way of telling my Self life can stink so what are going to do about it? Am I being shown that I’m wasting my time in worry fretting and begging the phone to ring with the answers I seek? A subtle reminder to let loose the frustrations of yet another bad day at work instead of dwelling on it to the point a restful sleep is hopeless. Is this nasty smell my sign to rethink what’s important? Could this be the message? HA! I’m grateful it’s not the stench of foot odor telling me the importance of ‘walkin’ my talk.’

Deep in thought and contemplating the meaning of this Aroma Therapy I realize, “This is, in this very moment, how I am spending my precious time and energy.” I thrive in finding the joy in everything, even if I have to look under the sofa cushions and move a few dust bunnies out of the way behind the television. Perception, perception, perception. I’d rather be taking a long walk in the woods with my Siberian husky then consumed with doubt and the possible pending doom. The sound of birds singing high in the trees is more peaceful than the thoughts coated in ‘what if’s?’

“Experience is the toughest teacher because she gives the test first, and then the lesson.” -Unknown

Uh. I don’t smell the burning coffee beans anymore. I think the message was fully understood. Life may seem like it stinks at times, but where are we focusing our energy? What thoughts do you wish to fill your mind in this moment?

Have a great and magical day! (or HAGAMD! for those that understand the chat room lingo)

The Critic's at Lake Michigan

2010-05-19T11:11:00.002-04:00

In the back of my mind, I hear the sweet voice tell me, “Relax, don’t over analyze.”

I’m to the point where I feel a book proposal is my next step along with the continued editing. The monkey-mind side of my thought process wants to see how others do it. You know, see how it’s supposed to be done. Oh my GOD! Did I really think that phrase? How it’s supposed to be done? Noooooo….

When the time comes to taking on a task it’s good to do some investigative work, but who says you have to follow the leader? Certainly not I! I’m the rebel-rouser that snickers in the face of “I am your leader, follow me” type personalities. Of course, my response is, “Ha! I don’t think so” or “Yeah, whatever. I’ll do it my way.” Take a leap of faith and do it your way (or in the context of this entry ~ my way). Follow your heart. There is no right way or wrong way. As long as you put forth the intent to acquire your desired outcome – you will.

A common suggestion unweathered writers will receive is to have fellow writers help with the writing/editing process by critiquing it. This is very helpful and the results can be priceless. Now that I can see the light at the end of this four-year journey, I’m adding my own twist by having two avid readers who visually consumes books like irresistible candy to make sure I don’t lose ‘em in the plot, the characters are realistic, and the novel is entertaining. I think this plan of action will work to my advantage.

As far as the book proposal, I need to put pen to paper and worry about the name of the person following the word Dear another day. For right now, I am enjoying the small leaps of faith as my internal critic is sipping on her ice cold glass of lemonade at the beach.

Stagnant Thought Mantra

2010-05-17T11:28:00.002-04:00

Self-talk was the subject that came to mind this morning as I lay in bed easing from sleepy-state to somewhat awake. As I sat down to the computer all excited to have effortlessly come up with an idea for my Monday morning finger-tapping keyboard dance, I wrote the first sentence and immediately was wordless. Errt...to a complete thought-process stop. Huh? Dang-nab-it. For a little inspiration, I pulled this week's “Discover the Buddha” meditation card created by OSHO.

“Everything arises and passes away. When you see this, you are above sorrow. This is the shining way.” - OSHO

Today's meditation card communicates the necessity to accept change without clinging to our current situation. “Yes,” I thought, “this fits in with Self-talk.” What does harmful Self-talk center around? Fear. Why do we resist change? Fear. How do we maintain the feeling of being in a rut? Fear. I could keep going, but why? You get the point I'm making. What is fear – an illusion!

“By resisting the temptation to hold onto our current beliefs, we can move freely between moments.” - Cindy Kochis

Mind over matter is a powerful tool for it is the action of what we wish to perceive. We have the capabilities to make ourSelf healthy/sick, rich/poor, happy/sad through our thoughts, not reality. We use a great deal of energy to focus on these aspects. If we think we are sick, we become ill. If we believe we are destined to be poverty-stricken, prosperity will always feel out of reach. Whatever you believe will be true for you. We mentally repeat phrases like a personal mantra.
“I'm stupid.” versus “I'm brilliant.”
“Augh, do I have to go to work today? I hate going to work.” versus “I can't wait to get to the store and see how many people I can help today.”
“I have no friends.” versus “Wow, I feel so bless to be surround by such wonderful people.”
“I'm bored.” versus “Yes, now I have time to relax.”

I'll be the first to admit, I was one of those who felt that when times were good, I didn't want anything to change. But, who's to say the next moment would be anything less than fantastic? We establish our opinions of the situation based on desires and personal perception. What is good to one person could be horrific to another. For example: I would love to spend a week at a cabin in the middle of the woods surrounded by nature and wildlife. On the flip side, this kind of time away from home for a friend of mine living in a large city would absolutely terrify her and cause a great amount of anxiety.

Must we hold onto our stagnant thoughts and prevent our Self from accepting change?

It’ll Affect One’s Perspective

2010-05-14T09:34:00.000-04:00

Gratitude can have a profound effect on your outlook today. How do you perceive this adventure we call life? I’m grateful I have a job. For some there is simply too much focus on workload stress, feeling unappreciated and undervalued, and the one co-worker that drives you nuts. Okay, let’s find something else. How about being grateful for the friends and family that are always there for you no matter the circumstances? Oh, did that bring up guilt instead or fear of showing weakness? Consider that a good thing. Now you know an area in your life you’d like to heal.

Feeling and expressing gratitude can bring you more into alignment with Self. It can be an instant mood lifter if you let it. Everyone interprets situations differently so there is no right or wrong way to explore this subject matter. Just try it. Even though the temptation to say, “I dare you,” is very strong I shall resist. Gratitude can help you to voice a positive perspective, show the value to your experience, and reaffirm the benefits of being you ~ the wonderful, beautiful, unique YOU.

For me, there is overpowering gratitude for my two sons. Watching them grow and mature into men has been my strength; the drive to keep me going and courage to seek a better life. My oldest son’s passionate curiosity to know how it works, dismantle and rebuild the object out of the sheer enjoyment. His younger brother possesses the skill to change a bad mood to light and lively with his wit and humor and all around goofiness. And, of course, my heart overflows every time they say, “Thanks Mom, I love you.”

What are you grateful for? Please share your thoughts; I would love to hear from you.

Dream Work Is Not Always Easy But Worth It

2010-05-12T13:09:00.001-04:00

I was disappointed - downright upset - with the words neatly printed on the pages. I’m a better writer than that! I exclaimed internally.

It was close to midnight, there I was lying in bed editing the novel I’ve been developing. Something deep within raged and in a burst of raw energy I tossed it into the burn bin in my office. I turned on my computer and posted on a social media site the following statement, “just tossed my 61-chapters of rough draft into the burn pile and is seriously contemplating hitting the delete key on my novel. I give up…”

Never did I expect the response I received from friends and colleagues. I knew I’d get flack, but I didn’t care (at that fleeting moment). Mostly they stated, “Don’t do it.” “Don’t give up.” One of my responses to my newly formed cheerleading squad was, “Thanks guys… that’s the problem, I keep setting it down thinking by some miracle it’ll bet better or I’ll be more inspired ~ I’ve set a time to write daily and life got in the way ~ read the How I Did It & Survived books hoping for encouragement and answers as to my delay tactics. It’s been four years since I started this novel…” Only two people told me, “Good for you. Now you can move onto something else.” Sounded great at the moment until I realized that I wanted to finish this book I started writing.

I will finish writing THIS novel, dog-nab-it.

Several weeks later, after letting the internal stew simmer from a boil, I pulled the novel out of the trash. I didn’t open the draft I spent precious time writing, printing and binding. Nope. Instead it followed me from room to room and even rode with me to work a time or two. Near the closing of the month of April, with great joy, I posted on the media site the great news to my cheerleading squad, “…A few minutes ago it (my novel) looked up at me with sad, brown puppy-dog eyes. I opened my banished novel and have started to edit it again. Like a long lost love, it feels good to hold the book again.” I could hear crowd cheer.

So that was in April; it’s May 12th and a lot has changed. I’ve slashed and hacked sentences, paragraphs and rid of chapters that no longer served the book in an entertaining way. I’ve back pedaled and reconstructed the storyline to remove the sludge from the reader’s eye sight. On May 8th, I posted, “Edited chapter 5, changed 6 to 7 and 7 to 6, took a hunk from 6 and morphed into a spot in 8… Half of 9 was missing in action and had to finish a second portion so it would make some sense. 10 only needed a little trimming and 11 went on a diet and lost a page. 12 is gone and now I move onto chapter 13. Ah… what a wonderful day in my world.”

For fun, I asked the cheerleaders, “Okay, if you were sitting down in a cafe about to eat a bowl of soup, what kind would it be?...What would Sarah, your waitress, bring you?” The response was great. I love my cheerleaders. The support I’ve received from them has stirred up, boasted and raised my creative energy to new heights. Dream work isn’t always easy, but well work the effort ~ especially when you have a cheerleading squad as wonderful as mine. Thank you all.

Worlds – Words & Vice Versa

2010-05-10T11:05:00.004-04:00

It’s been drivin’ me crazy. I’ve been subconsciously telling myself to pay attention. And I wasn’t listening. For the past six weeks, anytime I wrote the word “word”, I added an “L”. Yep, you got it. All my “words” became “worlds” (and it continues as I type this entry). Of course, I would laugh at the irony until it became obnoxious and was having to delete the extra letter. A few times I skimmed over it completely seeing “word” instead of “world.” When you think about it, our “words” express our feelings, communicate beliefs and puts forth for all to view our individual “world.”

“There is no separation between our words and perceived worlds for we communicate what we believe to be our truth.” –Cindy Kochis

To be honest, I had another subject outlined for today’s blog entry, however as I typed the title “Power of Worlds” the sign was unbearably clear. The metaphoric 2 x4 got me again. So let’s see if I can mesh the two subjects together and form something that’ll make a little sense. Now that I’m somewhere near the middle, let me begin my original idea.

What if I were to tell you your main purpose in life is to be happy. Would you do all you could to seek happiness or wait till you were in a better mood? What if I were to tell you your purpose in life is to be a farmer and raise Angus beef and grow strawberries. Would you quit your job, move out to the country, plant strawberries by the hundreds and build a barn for your cattle? Sound ridiculous? We ask others, without realizing it, “what do you think I should do?” instead of looking inward and asking Self for the answer. Oh, I’ll admit I was just as guilty as the next person because I didn’t want to take the responsibility for my own happiness. It is, after all, easier to blame others for bad advice when things don’t work out the way we’d hoped.

Digging and searching for inspiration, wise words to live by and find the reasoning behind why do we seek the answers outside of ourselves when we already intuitively know them? A common phrase I came across often was, “what do ‘I’ believe?” Whoa - that puts a new spin on the old way of thinking.

It is “I” that defines YOU. Think about it, that simple one-letter word is the most powerful word in the English dictionary. It is Self – as the individual. When you place the singular letter word in a sentence you are distinguishing your world from others.

“I am beautiful.” “I look like crap today.”

“I am able to pay all my bills this month.” “I have no money.”

“I’m going to climb to the top of the mountain.” “I have no ambition.”

“I love my life.” “I hate what he did to me.”

As a gift to you, I’ve added a widget on the sidebar titled Free Worksheets. Download Power of Words and see if this worksheet can assist you on your journey of personal growth. There is power in our words. How do you perceive your world?

Yet to Uncover

2010-05-07T10:21:00.001-04:00

“You are a very strong woman, extremely intelligent and gifted in so many ways You have yet to uncover.”
–Cindy Kochis

These words were expressed earlier this week to a very close friend of mine that’s hit a sand trap on her journey. The more I thought about the line I composed the more I realized it fits my situation – anyone’s at some point in time. We are yet to uncover wondrous things about ourselves that we never would have thought possible.

One of the key elements is to be easy, gentle, on our Self. Find ways to turn not-so-good thoughts to be compassionate and loving. By taking time each time to relax and giggle, and explore things that will help you feel good. There is so much we can do for ourSelf, the options are endless: take a walk, learn to paint, go to the museum, learn to play golf, pamper your Self with a massage…

One idea I like to utilize is a Wish-To-Do-List; otherwise termed as a Bucket List. Take a piece of paper and make a list of things you’d like to do, learn, and so forth. Remember, the sky is the limit. List everything no matter how outrageous you may think they are today. Are there things on the list you’d like to do in the next three months, year, five years? Set your goals and leave it out where you’ll see it. Allow it to serve as a reminder. If you hear or read about something that stirs up curiosity, add it to the list. When doubt rears its ugly head, don’t dismiss it. There will be days when you say, ‘this is lame’ or ‘what’s the point’… and that’s okay. Explore why you feel that way and then tell your Self, “This is important me because I want to ________________.” Move forward by altering your perspective to help you see the “positives.” Gift your Self a pep talk. After all, you deserve to have fun, learn and experience new things. There is a world out there waiting for you to uncover.

“Look to the past only to review the lessons, not to relive them.”
–Cindy Kochis

Subtle Reminders

2010-05-03T09:45:00.002-04:00

Inspiration blossoms in beautiful ways. Watching a young child play reminds us to fill our days with more fun and excitement. Witnessing the kindness of the man assisting another person pick up the items that where only seconds ago being carried offers an example of compassion. The elderly couple holding hands as they sit on the park bench reinforces how love can grow stronger over time.

The ideas for each blog post come from observation - things I encounter each day. Listening to a mother talk about her teenage children, a young woman facing divorce, the man who finds it difficult to be lonely, and sometimes the posts are developed based on an experience I have gone through. It is when you set the intention of doing whatever it is you do for the highest good for all with harm to none, life will be more harmonious and peaceful. We possess the ability to make our own choices. There is no wrong way, there is no right way to do anything. The key element to living the life you wish to have is to stop the blame-game and take responsibility for the situation you've put yourself. This life you are living is your own creation.

The more I come to understand this concept, the less I like some of the decisions I've made. It is through these experiences I'm seeing the value in the statement “Live in the moment.” By living in the moment, from the point of Self-love, your actions are not driven by what someone did to you six years ago, what a lover told you once, how your parents raised you – oh, the list could on for miles. If the emotion you feel is painful, or offered a less than desirable way to value yourself, honor it as a lesson. Don't hold it internally and file it into your memory bank under “Description of Self.” Look at their opinion as that – an opinion. It is a projection from their personal experience. It is not necessarily yours to claim. You decide – TRUE or FALSE. Again I state, “This life you are living is your own creation.”

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.”
-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Want more love in your life – be more loving.

Want more drama in your life – be dramatic.

Want more peace – be peaceful.

What do you want to create for yourSelf?

The Things We Say & Do

2010-04-30T10:13:00.003-04:00

It takes courage to be vulnerable. It's the fear of giving friends, family, enemies and complete strangers the opportunity to hurt us in ways we believe would be detrimental to our well-being that prevents us from being Authentic.

A very common line repeated as if a personal mantra: “I'm my own worst critic.” Sad, but true, many participate in the practice of being the one attacking Self. Who knows the painful pressure points better than anyone else? To protect our internal Self, we build walls and dig motes to remove all access to our spirit by locking it behind an impenetrable gate. But why? To keep everyone out and to prevent future heartbreak? We go through our trials and tribulations to learn more about our own desires.

“Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind.”
-Alice Meynell

The keys to our Self-imposed gate is within reach. The illusion is we cannot unlock it; because what if...... Look into the eyes of the person you see in the mirror and say, “I love you.” Say it with compassion and respect. Release your inhibitions. And yes, you can do this! Strengthen the relationship with Self. Be your own best friend and the person you want to be in this lifetime. Take yourSelf out on a date and do the things you always wanted to try. Don't be afraid. Shatter the mental phrases that hold you back by questioning whether it's worthy of 'truth'.

When you step back from the situation you might find fear is not the root cause of your hesitation; it's being vulnerable to the unknown.

Please note: It was very important that I share this message today. I don't know why or for whom it is intended. I am trusting my intuition. As I walked in the woods yesterday afternoon, the subject of vulnerability entered my thoughts and its affect on people. The flip side to this conversation is – “When you see someone in a vulnerable state, what do you do?”

Quote for the Day

2010-04-30T07:13:00.005-04:00

"Where you may see death and decay, I see life and love."
-Cindy Kochis

Behind Closed Eyes

2010-04-26T09:31:00.005-04:00

The words 'Define it. Write it out. Draw it out.' lay effortlessly in blue ink as I began my journal entry at 6:21 this morning. As I listened and penned my thoughts, the following phrase was on paper before I realized it: “Don't question. Don't hesitate. Follow your heart. Feel your inner wisdom. Be your Authentic Self.” My first quote of the day (edited version, of course).

As I began to write a current list of goals, the kitchen timer went off for the dog food I was cooking for my Siberian husky. Stirring the rice, beef, vegetable and herb mixture, a message channeled in and knew it was vital for someone.

“How can you judge someone when you cannot experience the thoughts, emotions behind closed eyes?”
-Cindy Kochis 4-2010

One thing I trust is my intuition. It is not important if I don't know who the message is for and even why. What is important is that I don't bottle it up in fear that I might offend someone. Those that react with the greatest resistance are at the beginning stages of change (personal growth). This is meant for them. Otherwise it serves as a gentle reminder; an 'ah-ha' thing-a-ma-bopper.

The message was so strong that I stopped journalling to post it on FB. As the computer dialed for internet connection, the words “Compassion will heal ALL ills” filled and warmed my heart. To be compassionate, as used in this statement, is not about having pity on a person, however to be discerning. Remove your judgment with an open mind and heart and appreciate what you interpret the emotions they might be feeling in that moment. It is not possible for you to fully know how they feel, as our life experiences are as different as we are individual. Imagine how stress-free our lives could be if we stopped judging people and adored them for, well, them. Seriously. As you interact with people today, notice how we judge (and yes, we all do it – some to an extreme versus others) those around us or brought up in conversation. Did you feel envy or compassion, love or denial, joy or embarrassment?

Well, I think it's time for me to go back to finishing my journal entry for today. REMEMBER ~ Compassion (discernment) will heal ALL ills.

Cut & Paste Dreams With Directions

2010-04-23T09:41:00.004-04:00

I'll be honest, prior to creating my first Dream Board I thought they were a bit juvenile. There I sat at the dining room table a year ago with a group of friends feeling absolutely silly cutting up magazines, calendars and gluing the pieces onto poster board until I realized what was happening. I was setting goals. Me set goals? I know I was surprised too. Creating goals to me then was like taking an exam with only two minutes left on the teacher's clock when the pencil lead snaps under the pressure – and my future depends on my answers.

I began the creative project by sectioning off areas for home/family, vacation, my business, and personal growth/spirituality. Breaking it up into groups allowed a visual for what parts of my life were unbalanced. In my business box had pictures of money in it. Looking at it (a year later), I realized I didn't specify how I was going to earn or receive the cash. It was undefined. Adding a “list of action” would have been wise; laying down a foundation from which to grow. The list could have been used as a road map. I willy-nilly chose to select beef on the menu and hoped the waitress brought back a thick slice of medium-rare prime rib smothered in sauted onions with garlic mashed potatoes on the side next to the streamed green beans topped with butter, salt and pepper.

“A goal is to have a destination in mind. Desires plotted out like a road map to reference when you feel lost.”
-Cindy Kochis

To create your own, start with poster board or a blank piece of paper (any size, type, color). Ah, the blank slate ~ visual silence. Allow the innocents of the child within to explore the pages of magazines, newspapers and other printed material. Daydream about the things you would like to bring into your life; no matter how out of reach you currently think it is. Cut and paste things you wish for onto the Dream Board. Don't stop there, write a general list next to it of how you plan to accomplish the goal. Overtime, as you look at it, you will find yourself figuring out ways to define your aim on the target. Narrowing the focus on these desires get the mojo movin' faster and attracting those experiences, items, people into your life.

What is on your Dream Board?

Pieces of Egg Shell Everywhere

2010-04-19T10:08:00.007-04:00

I have a magical garden. It was built as I emotionally healed and has been maintained with unconditional love. The flowers outside in my back yard have witnessed my tears, my joys and all emotions in between, and yet, they come back every year. I think they like to watch me grow.

In an email conversation with a dear friend, she wrote these words, “And when it comes to doing healing work, maybe it's time to stop trying to heal people and instead, time to use your training to help people align with their healed truth?” I read the line too many times to count. For those that don't already know, I am an intuitive healer. Actually, to tell the truth, not many people know. This is my cracking out of my shell, takin' the risk, jumping off the metaphysical cliff and whatever cheesy line fits appropriately. It is time for me to stop hiding behind the curtain and be of service. People have a way of finding me and telling me their issues, problems - their life story. It happens in the grocery store, the post office, at work, and the list continues. When I was a teen, this used to bug me to no end. I would think, “Do I really need to know this? Do I look like I care?” I'd offer some encouraging words to be nice and off they would go. Years later, a friend helped me explore my abilities. It didn't take long for me to attract the things in my life to help me become more 'aware'.

I would like to share with you a portion of my correspondence; it will help you understand my goal and intent as an intuitive healer. “From the beginning of my journey in this life of channelling, premonitions, and healing, I've not wanted to tell people of their future, for the future is forever evolving through our own free will. Of course I went to you to take a peak at "my" future, not so much to know it, but to know that I would be in a better place than I was at that moment ~ that everything would be okay, happier, less painful. I needed the reassurance. Funny thing is, I've held off in doing any readings for people because I didn't want to disappoint people, break their hearts like when things I was told would happen didn't work out in what I considered a timely manner. Hence, my novels. According to channeled readings received over the years, I should have one novel published and another almost done. MY LESSON... I lived and experienced what I don't want to present to others and shown why. I want to help people with 'today'. What you wrote is what my current blog is all about ~ helping people align with their healed truth. That is how I want to assist people ~ bring awareness to Self ~ to enlighten them so they may see on their own how their words and actions impact not only others, but themSelf ~ remind them of the love that is within each of us ~ AND, there is no right, there is no wrong; there is no positive, there is no negative (other than with electricity)... I see how I was; I see how others feel and the emotions they use to express in an attempt to feel better about themselves and life (for example, drama)... I want to (metaphorically) hand them the tools as they are leaning under the hood of their car saying to themselves, "if I tweak this and adjust that... this engine should purr like a kitten." (Can ya tell I've had many mechanics in my life?) You're right - I don't want to fix 'em. I am an intuitive healer assisting those that are ready to align with Self in a non-judgmental, unconditionally loving and healthy manner. Thank you. I needed to say that.”

I'm certain when I am finished posting this blog entry and take a walk out in my garden I will hear the daffodils applaud. There is so much for us to love, learn and appreciate about Self.
Namaste'

Posting Emotions

2010-04-16T10:24:00.007-04:00

We are exceptionally hard on ourselves at times. Want proof? Be as an observer of any social internet networking site entries. Remove yourself from your personal point of view and non-judgmentally feel the emotions people express about themselves and/or situations. Notice how your emotions change? Do you feel joy, love, support, or pain, sorrow, loneliness...

"Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you're getting."
-Anon.

It it vital that we feel our emotions without sweeping them under the rug in the other room. When we experience one sense of being we can move towards the next belief we wish to explore. Wonder how law of attraction works? We manifest into our lives the things, people, situations we yearn for to gain all knowledge. That's it. There is no right way, no wrong way. It just is. It is why we are here.

This post was inspired by the wide range of posts I read only minutes ago. One person wrote how grateful she was for hot water, another mentioned going to bed alone as always, and so forth. As you witness their words, pay attention to your own. What are you saying? What are you feeling? Are you in the moment or stuck on a past issue? What wisdom is being acquired?

Feel the Words

2010-04-12T11:00:00.008-04:00

What are you really afraid of? The loss of a relationship, getting fired from your dreaded job, not having enough chocolate stashed, whether or not they like you, am I good enough, pretty enough... the list can go on and on and on. Seriously, what is the root of your fear? Now ask yourself, “How do I emotionally feel about myself?”

As divine beings, we communicate with ourselves and others through emotions ~ not words. Try to explain how and what LOVE feels like and when, where. Now do the same with the words JOY, SORROW, FORGIVENESS and PEACE. We have a tendency to toss the words into our vocabulary like candy in the Fourth of July parade without really appreciating the energy given/received.

Desiring change in my life, it has taken time to understand, and acknowledge, the repetitive patterns flowing in and out of my experiences. They are situations I've created through the laws of attraction to show in which areas I need to love, forgive and release the fear from within.

Unrealistic limitations etched in our thoughts and beliefs are reinforced by the chatter of our monkey mind's. By feeling the emotions, allowing them to be as they are in this moment, you can begin to heal any issue/situation. If you find yourself wanting to adjust the emotion to be what you wish it were, relax, and allow it to be as it is. Easier said than done if you believe that it's got to be difficult. I'm finding it to be simple. Yes, simple. Let go of any expectations and be in the moment.

How do you emotionally feel when you say 'I love you' to your pet, your mother, your sibling, your best friend, your Self? Notice the different definitions to the same word Love.

What Statement?

2010-04-09T13:25:00.006-04:00

There is power within that is undeniably ours. No one can alter it unless we allow them too. We hold the keys even when we feel we've misplaced them. Each person has a unique set of beliefs that are always evolving.

If you constantly claim “I'm always late”, you believe you will arrive after your desired or expected time because you believe the statement to be true. “I am always late.” Shift your thoughts by stating, if only quietly to yourself, “I arrive at the right time.” The point is not to feel that you have follow any rules or memorize the Law of Attraction. Challenge yourself to explore a new way of thinking. Take dieting, for example. A common line most of us have said at one point or another is, “You want what you can't have.” The sad part is, we believe it. The one who believes they need to loose weight will say, “I can't eat (fill in the blank).” Why not? Oh, yeah, because of the belief that it will cause you to gain six pounds just by looking at it. Heaven forbid if you had the power within to add weight that way!

Release the burden of negative and self-defeating thoughts and exchange them for those that uplift your spirits. Who wants to walk around all day with their head hung low? Not I. I believe that life if full of magic and wonderment. “I believe the power within me radiates brighter each moment.”

What are some of the statements you have altered to feel better about yourself?

Provoking Insight

2010-04-05T09:03:00.009-04:00

There is no doubt that we seek answers out side of ourselves. Turning to friends and family (even complete strangers) for advice and suggestions on how to live our own lives when we already intuitively know what's best for us. Some find the idea of sitting quietly and listening to the inner voice of love, our true Self, to be less exciting then going to the Gynecologist for a pap smear.

“The moralist always judges, the aware person never judges. He lives in a nonjudgmental consciousness. He simply watches and understands.” - OSHO

Oracle, meditation and tarot cards bring a bit of insight when used with the intent of “For the Highest Good for All with harm to none.” There are times when the messages drawn are unwelcome because the perceived guidance drawn is less than in our favor. Wait, isn't that why we sought the advice? In order to change, we have to look at the cause to encourage the desired affect.

Each Monday, I drawn one card from the “Discover the Buddha” Meditation to Meet the Buddha Within by OSHO and leave it propped up on my desk as a daily reminder. The card drawn fits perfectly into what is happening in my life in this moment. Today's card reads, “A mind beyond judgments watches and understands.” As we go forth on our paths of enlightenment non judgment is one of those things that, at times, seems pretty easy and without issue... and occasionally we find ourselves pre-judging someone based on opinions we were taught by another person and or society.

This week observe your thoughts. Are you consciously or subconsciously judging? Share with us your Ah-ha moments.

Quote for Today

2010-04-05T08:53:00.002-04:00

“You suppose you are the trouble
But you are the cure
You suppose that you are the lock on the door but you are the key that opens it
It's too bad that you want to be someone else
You don't see your own face, your own beauty
Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours.”

-Rumi

Cut, Reword, Edit

2010-03-30T12:25:00.000-04:00

Editing is fun. I've been going through my novel with a wide toothed comb verifying that the story line is in tact and cutting out the wandering story lines that lead the reader to yawn. It's exciting to see where this story started and how it has evolved. I was a different person without the knowledge of today.

A good sign is that as I read, I don't want to set the book down. Well, thought I'd drop a quick line to let you know how the first of many novels was coming along.

There Is More Than One Path To Wander

2010-03-24T09:36:00.007-04:00

“Once you realize that there's no single path, it will be easier to accept the one you have chosen.”

Simple statement, rich in possibilities. If you stop and think about it, we are taught that we are to follow our destiny (singular), a life path (again singular) and not to go darting off in six different directions. What happens to the people who believe we have multiple purposes/roles? For a creative person who gets bored quickly with routine this is a difficult way to live. It is frustrating and unnatural for creative minds to focus on only one project. “Pick one thing and really, really focus on it. One thing at a time,” they say. Hogwash!

“Once you realize that there's no single path, it will be easier to accept the one you have chosen,” is so freeing. My mind is dancing with excitement, my heart is singing with joy. I remind you ~ there is no right way, there is no wrong way... it is what it is. If you follow the concept for the highest good for all with harm to none then you are sure to find happiness, joy, love, peace, balance, harmony... and the list goes on!

The only thing that limits us is our beliefs. Rephrase "I am meant to be __." to say, "I am ___."

Share with me how you have overcome your personal road blocks. I would love to hear from you.

Revive Dreams With CPR (Countless Possibilites Revitalized)

2010-03-23T14:17:00.004-04:00

The day before my trip to California, I printed the first sixty-one chapters of the novel I've been working on for over four years. During the flights to and fro, and during several resting periods, I proceeded to cross off blocks of words, rearrange, rework several areas of the story. Suppose it wouldn't be too far fetched to say I have already eliminated approximately two 'drag the reader's eye balls through icky nasty pooh pooh crap that'll make them slam the book shut' chapters. The intent of the story is to create a storyline that will urge the reader to keep turning the pages, stay up all night because they can't put it down... not to be used as a sleep-aid.

It's been quite a while since my last posting on the novel. Lot's of things have changed so far this year and it's only March 23rd. Lord knows what else I will be rearranging. Life is better today than yesterday and am manifesting each moment to become more magical. Dreams do come true, even when you've given up on them. If there's a tingle of light in your dream, embrace and see how you can breath life back into it.

Initial Reaction

2010-03-23T11:05:00.007-04:00

It seems I'm back in this blankity-blank spot again. I am bound and determined to climb out of this rut successfully without any bumps, bruises or muddy knees. We all go through periods of time when we wonder what did I do wrong this time?

“Be authentic without apologies. Allow yourself to feel the emotions you are feeling at this moment. Re-act to the situation without concern for another's criticism. There is no right way, there is no wrong way ~ embrace being YourTrueSelf.”

The quote above is the edited version of the stewing and percolating thought I woke up with yesterday. It's not that I am unemotional, sometimes I don't feel the need to be emotional. There's a lesson is this; a take-a-look-at-yourself kind of observation needing reviewing. Thoughts of: “Did I offend someone again because I didn't respond to the situation the way they wanted me too?” “Does it really matter if I hurt someone's feelings because they expected me to do it differently?” “Am I allowing me to be, well, me?”

It is such a common dilemma ~ worrying about what other people think of me. “Do I look okay?” “Am I doing the right thing?” “Do these pants make my butt look fat?” Truly, does it really matter? I enjoy being comfortable in my own shoes, walking my own path, but damn I'm getting tired of people (okay, the blame comes back to me) digging ruts and putting up barriers in the way of my journey. Truly, we do attract things into our lives to help us learn more about Self and Self-love, Self-appreciation, Self-awareness...

So ask yourself, Am I being authentic without apologies?

Begin with "I Miss You."

2010-03-12T09:41:00.006-05:00

During a two year period we had ten funerals on my mother’s side of the family alone, not including my father-in-law’s, family on my dad’s side of the family, nor any of my friend’s or their children. My grandfather’s death was the first in the series, with my Uncle Bernie's the last. I need to mention here my uncle, during the period, had already lived with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma for around four years. If you know anything about this form of cancer, it’s a death sentence. I was (and still am) very close to my Uncle Bernie on many levels. We still have a special bond. As we would get ready to leave the luncheon after services, we’d say to each other, “See ya at the next family reunion.” It was our inside joke and eased the twist of pain from the heart as we said good-bye to another family member.

I found my shower to be my sacred space. With the noise from the radio and pouring water, this little 30” x 30” cubical was the only place I felt I could cry and let go and not be disturbed. I could let down my guard, be vulnerable. For Pete’s sake, how can you not be vulnerable when you’re naked? Standing in my shower with the hot water pounding on my back, forehead pressed against the shower wall supporting me as my arms dangled with streams of water cascading off my fingertips. This was when the emotions flowed. I’d cry, beg God for help and occassionally dance to the song on the radio. I was safe there. Soon I found myself talking to my Uncle Bernie when I was in my sacred space; asking why, how, what the hell? Sometimes I would hear the answers or solutions in my mind. It wasn’t until years later that I realized I was actually channeling him, and he was helping me from the other side.

If you are missing someone that has pasted on, relax your mind, set a focused intent on the loved one and speak from your heart. What I mean by ‘speak from your heart’ is to communicate through unconditional love. Feel the love you have for the person and begin to talk to them, they’re there listening. If you would like a sign, ask for a loving one that you'll understand easily. It might take five minutes, a day, a week or even a month for you to notice it. Trust it will happen and it will. Show your gratitude by simply saying, "thank you." I ask my deceased ex-husband often to show me signs he's taking care of our sons from his vantage point and I always receive them.
Do you have story you would like to share?

Friends

2010-03-11T12:46:00.005-05:00

Ambition, a good friend of mine, has not been happy with me. I’ve brushed her off for my new friend LazyAss. He’s kinda cute, likes to cuddle on the couch and watch television and eat popcorn with me. We’ll roast the occasional marshmallow in the woodstove. He doesn’t seem to mind that I’ve been reading a lot instead of washing the dishes and dusting the furniture. I’m sure you’ve met LazyAss. He comes to my house, oh, every so often. But let me tell ya, Ambition isn’t taken his crap no more. She’s been relentlessly trying to motivate me to do some pretty, shall I say, gruesome work. For example, she convinced me it would be a good idea to clean my office a week or so ago.

My paper shredded has had more of a work out than me. There were times I swear I heard it say, “Are ya done yet?” The file cabinets looks way too slender, almost anorexic, to this paperwork collector – the person who creates lists of articles to write, prints creative ideas from the internet with the intend to follow through on another fun project and so forth. I kept copies of everything. Inspirational tidbits I hoped would motivate me in some creative ways that would earn me millions. Oh heck, if I’m gonna daydream, let’s go for the gusto and say it would earn me zillions of billions.

The daunting task of cleaning my home office had been put off for far too long. With Ambition helping me, I parked my butt in my office chair and began going through old files, old notebooks and boxes of paper and stuff. Together, Ambition and I took six grocery bags of paper to recycling, burned at least two to three bags worth in the bonfire pit and a bag took the fateful trip to the landfill. LazyAss gave me permission to wait a week or a month to take the pile of stuff to Goodwill that’s good enough to donate. Ambition wasn’t happy with the idea, but agreed when I promised to clean out the closets.

Well, at least now I can finally see the top of my desk and floor in my office.

Authenticity is the Key

2010-02-18T11:29:00.004-05:00

There is so much change happening all around us; and isn’t it great? I’ve been having some really odd dreams to the point that I wake up thinking, “Huh?” Looking for some kind of message or meaning behind the oddities, I’ve been journaling more than ever before. The trail of bread crumbs leads me to parts of my past that I need to see the lesson and beliefs/habits to let go. Other pieces show me what my gifts are and how they can benefit all of us.

This morning I woke up to my inner voice saying, “Be authentic.” That’s it. That simple. Be authentic. A friend of mine said those words to me a while back and I shoo-shooed it as, ‘yeah, thanks, nice advice.’ However, it came full circle and I understand what she meant. Be the real you. Be the person your heart desires. Be unafraid to speak your inner truth. Be willing to love unconditionally. Live your life joyously. Ignore those who hold you down, tell you your dreams will never come true, and tell you negative and hurtful things to make themselves better (which by the way that never works, they still feel lousy about themselves even after their attempts to dismantle you). You are not the person your teachers in high school said you were. You are not the person your family wanted you to be. You are not the person society wishes to dictate, molding you into their form. You are an individual with a purpose, dreams and an inner knowing. Follow your heart and nothing else.

I wish you love, peace & joy ~

It Is Time To Move

2010-02-18T11:23:00.005-05:00

On January 17th, I decided to end a dream. Creative Counsel, Inc. was established as a way for me to explore the adventure of owning my own freelance writing business. I haven’t stopped writing (although you can’t tell that by the lack of entries on this blog). With the shedding of one coat that no longer fit, other layers quickly fell to the floor as well. Relationships, business ventures (yes, plural), and any other stuff I felt no longer served my highest good has been released. This past month has been about letting go and preparing for a rebirth (for a lack of a better word). I am starting over. Mind you, the slate hasn’t been perfectly cleaned off. Some residue remains as reminders of the blessing existing on my journey. Forgiveness has been expressed to Self and others, internal growth overwhelms my peaceful garden within and life is forever changing in magical ways.

Thought For Today

2010-02-18T11:21:00.002-05:00

"Don't look to the past for tomorrow's desires..."

Love Yourself Enough

2010-02-10T11:14:00.007-05:00

Love yourself enough to say yes,
Love yourself enough to say no,
Love yourself enough to see the situation as it is,
Love yourself enough to say hello,
Love yourself enough to say good-bye,
Love yourself enough to let it go,
Love yourself enough to speak your truth.

It's a Small World

2010-01-05T10:34:00.005-05:00

Not wanting to waste any more time attempting to remember how I found or when I first started listening to Diana Dorell’s SoulsJourneyRadio.com online radio show on Tuesday evenings (7PT/10ET), I would like to introduce her to you. Her sweet voice and fun-loving laughter raises the spirits of all of her listeners and offers guidance and messages those whom are tuned into her weekly show.

“I met Cindy through my radio station, SoulsJourney and Facebook whose famous giggle melts away any sorrow or fear. I await her upcoming book which will help many.” – Diana Dorrell

The interesting part of this chance meeting is the fact that while she lives in California and I in Michigan, I feel as though we’ve been friends since childhood. In early December she asked if I would like to submit something for her January e-newsletter. Excitement still dances within. As I checked my email this morning, it was in my inbox. Skimming quickly through her words to find my name, I found my submission and a quick introduction she’d written. Joy bubbled over. Once I read my section twice, and pinched myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming, I scrolled back to the top of the page and absorbed her messages for us.

Take this opportunity to meet Diana at www.TheDancingGoddess.com

To read the poem, go to
www.thedancinggoddess.com/free-articles.html

Evolving a Relationship

2010-01-05T10:06:00.002-05:00

“To simply begin, maintain and end a relationship is not a matter of starting or stopping it. You are changing the relationship to meet your desires and experience personal growth. Be gentle and honest with Self so you may see the countless blessings.” (Channeled January 3, 2010 during a reading)

Keep Moving Forward

2010-01-05T10:01:00.004-05:00

Inspired by the movie Julie/Julia, I started keeping a public log several months ago of the progress I am making in writing the draft of my novel. A way for me stay motivated and somehow accountable. Although this task is a little different from cooking and writing my way through a well-known cookbook, the idea of writing about my book seemed fun and entertaining until ‘the job’. It most certainly was not what I expected, combined with a ‘self embossed’ deadline to complete my first rendition, Creativity vacated this gal. The desire to even pick up my laptop evaded me. Mentally exhausted and churning thoughts turned me into mush. In order to save itself, Creativity went for a long walk. Then, like a knight in shining white armor to save this damsel in distress, the Strength within me said, “Shut up, Monkey-mind.”

“What are your priorities? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to focus your energies on?”

This past Saturday, sometime around 9:30 or 10am, I opened the file on my computer and completed the chapter I’d been contemplating for over a month. It is one of the most powerful, pivotal chapters in the novel.

Once I put on my rose colored glasses and let go of the issues at work, released the chains of the countdown-to-deadline clock and went about my life, Creativity came back and embraced me.

“When we no longer dwell on the outcome and relax within our Self ~ magic happens.” -Cindy Kochis

Quote for Today

2009-12-27T09:33:00.003-05:00

"Allow all the emotions to pass through ~ feel freedom by letting them go… Don’t hold on to them (positive or negative emotions) for then blockages begin to form."
-Cindy Kochis

The Last Twelve Hours

2009-12-27T09:32:00.001-05:00

I went to bed shortly before nine o’clock last night and woke up at 6:22am. I lay in bed and pondered the night’s odd dreams (of which I cannot remember an hour later). Within minutes my thoughts turned to writing. I mentally started a blog entry with “Inhale. Hold. Hold. Exhale. Ahhhhhhh…. Much better. Giving yourself a moment to experience your breath slows everything down and re-centers the chaotic mind.”

When I looked back to see how long it’s been since my last blog entry, I was astounded. In a desperate search to find a job for financial survival, I landed a position back in November at one of the local companies doing something other than following my passion. The new employment is going okay; stressful at times with inconsistent ‘shift’ hours (coming from working the 9-5 shift for over 20 years). On December 24th, I was given what I call a priceless Christmas gift and am very grateful. (Someone) from the HR department of (someplace) called at approximately 2:30 and left a message on my cell phone asking if I was still interested in the ‘copywriting’ position I’d applied for in October. My heart danced as I listened to this message. To make sure it was real, I listened to it again. A job that involves writing? A way for me to earn good money and be creative at the same time? Oh my, I’m in heaven!

I know the position I applied for doesn’t involve newspapers, but for as far back as I can remember, I’ve always dreamt of being a reporter writing articles of interesting people and places; good-hearted, fluffy stuff (as a dear friend of mine calls it). At one point around the age of twelve, I even had my own newspaper. I would type it up in our basement on my mother’s typewriter with carbon paper so I could have a copy and make my sister buy the make-your-fingertips-turn-blue version. The hard-core, point the finger at someone type articles do not interest me at all. I love to inspire, bring awareness to someone, something or someplace to help, not harm.

Someday, (don’t know how, don’t know when) I will have my own inspirational line of calendars, journals (currently I do make blank page journals if you’re interested) and maybe even oracle card decks with inspirational quotes and ‘pondering thoughts’. It is important to me to help others find their inner voice, strengthen their relationship with Self, empower and encourage the soul to grow in healthy, loving ways, and bring peace and harmony to the monkey-mind (chaotic mind). Do all this and be free to be creative. Each time I receive a quote or ‘pondering thought’ from deep within, I feel blessed and eager to share it with others whom are seeking a better way of life.

This is the point I set my journal down, ran upstairs and grabbed my laptop off the dresser and returned to my sacred spot next to the woodstove ~ my recliner.

Have a wonderful and joyous day. Always have faith that your dreams will come true.

Hugs and Giggles,
Me.

Key Elements Postponed

2009-12-27T09:31:00.000-05:00

Due to scheduling conflict (on my end), I have postponed the Key Elements Open Forum at the Higher Self Bookstore in Traverse City till spring. I will keep you posted on the Key Element’s schedule as it becomes available. Thank you…

Today's Reminder

2009-11-20T13:22:00.003-05:00

People come into our lives and leave their footprints within our souls. Which sets of footprints do you want to erase with the tides of your mind? You have the ability to watch the waves wash away the hurtful – painful memories for they serve no good. Treasure the imprints that uplift and empower you. Choose to hold onto those memories that fill you with love and joy. Let the rest go…

Written by Cindy Kochis 11-20-09

Goal-tending

2009-11-18T12:46:00.001-05:00

The topic for Key Elements open forum on Monday, November 23rd, is “Goal-tending.” We establish goals all the time with the intent to succeed. What are some of the ways you stay on track? Join us Monday night at Higher Self from 5:30 to 7pm and be part of discussion. Your input is valuable…

“Money – What Are You Attracting?”

2009-11-11T13:17:00.004-05:00

On Monday, November 16th, the Key Elements weekly forum topic is “Money – What Are You Attracting?” This is sure to bring awareness to beliefs and sayings we nonchalantly say without considering the consequences (I don’t have the money, I can’t afford to buy ___ and etc). It is through awareness that change can and does happen. Please join us and share in the open forum discussion format. We would love to hear what you have to say.

A thought to ponder: “Careful what you wish for” statement is a close second to the impact of, “Be AWARE of your beliefs.”

Key Elements weekly forum is facilitated by Cindy Kochis and held each Monday evening at Higher Self Bookstore from 5:30 to 7 p.m. To stay up-to-date, visit onegigglingwriter.blogspot.com or go to www.heartsourcehealing.com.